Some hope for those of you who were just dumped

[igotdumped]

My bf broke up with me 3 months ago. I can say with confidence that we were a perfect couple. We were very compatible and even lived together for a bit and had no problems. When he broke up with me, I was COMPLETELY devastated. I thought I wouldn't be able to love anyone after him and I thought I would NEVER stop crying and thinking about him 24/7. I couldn't even sleep well one month after the break up.

 

But now, 3 months after the break up, I don't even cry, I can't even make myself cry. I can say I'm mostly healed. This is coming from someone who was totally in love and thought was being loved in return. I feel SO much better now. I'm not dating anybody yet but I'm taking care of myself and working towards my goals. I'm totally focusing on myself and although I think about him from time to time, I don't feel sad anymore. So for those of you who think being dumped is the end of the world, it really isn't. I know it might not feel like it now, as I thought people were bsing when I read stuff like this on this website, but it really DOES get better. TRUST ME! I don't even like the idea of getting back with him anymore.

 

 

Just one thing, I know everyone says time heals everything, but you need to have the determination to let yourself heal. It does take time and you won't heal in a day but after sometime, with a positive attitude, you WILL get over this. Just smile and look forward instead of backwards

[nimisaj]

Good post!! I can relate in some ways... any other advice on how you achieved your goals and personal achievements and avoided your feelings for your ex? How did you move on, essentially?

[aglaia]

OP you should change your nick to something like healingnhappy... good for you on the work you've done on yourself!

 

I really agree that you can't just sit around and wait for yourself to move on. You have to take a proactive approach and say, this is it, i'm done moping and grieving, now i'm taking charge of my life. And once you are committed to the process, improvements will come in leaps and bounds. Some days you may falter but overall you know you're taking giant strides forward. Congrats!