Deciding to move?

[trident4]

I've been with my bf for about 3 years now, but it's such a long distance. I live in the United States, and he lives in England. Obviously, it's too expensive for our trips to be all that frequent, but I'm still very happy in my relationship. I'd always heard LDR's were so bad, and of course it gets very hard, but I enjoy mine very much. I guess after 3 years of a LDR using technology as our main way of communicating just seems so normal. I'd rather be there with him, but our communication is great, and he makes me happy even from a distance. However, we both realize a relationship shouldn't be a LDR forever. We're both very confused about what to do in the future. He's the one I can see myself marrying, but we haven't made any plans to move simply because it's such a tough issue. He's got a career there, friends, family, and the house he's lived in all his life. I'm finishing up my last year of college here so I have yet to start my career, and I've moved around a few times before. I wouldn't like having to leave my family in another continent though, and never imagined I'd be facing this. He understands this, and we tend to pretend everything is fine and that our relationship is normal, so we don't like to talk about the distance more than we have to. It feels right to be with him, I'd be willing to do so much to make it happen permanently, but sometimes I wonder if this is too drastic. ](*,) Honestly, I imagine my family would be quite furious if they knew I was considering moving there. I guess I need help in how to determine the best thing to do.

[Pappers]

well, it seems obvious.... if you two want to stay together, one of you will have to relocate. best you talk it through with your man. decisions like this take time, but might as well make them otherwise you are missing out on other opportunities.

[pinkrobot]

If you two are serious about continuing a long term relationship, then yes, eventually you would have to be living in the same place. So no, it's not too drastic.

 

As far as your family goes, regardless of how they feel this is a decision that affects you. Yes, they (and their opinions) may be important to you but at the end of the day it's what makes you happy. And as long as you're happy, your family will hopefully be happy for you.

[Beautiful-Love]

Eventually you're going to have to decide. You've been together for 3 years and it seems your relationship is heading in a good direction. Pop the question up as one of those serious questions because you two have to know where you want your relationship to be heading.