Did I make things worse?

[dak9912]

So I tried to put a link here so those who wanted could see my situation but it wouldnt let me. If interested plz search for my user name - dak9912. The post is called "7 years and an engagement - gone" (sorry and thank you. I tried to make it easier )

 

I must admit, I was not perfect with NC. I had been feeling better about things and had not contacted her at all. While I still would like one more chance with her, I was more-or-less coming to terms with the fact that may never happen and was really seeing things much more clearly. On occasion I was almost excited about being single. On Easter, though, I sent her a txt message just to say happy Easter. I got the same back from her. Two days after that i decided to try to give her a call (yea I know, dumb). She didnt answer or call back. Then yesterday, a good friend of mine told me she had been pretty sick and ended up going to the ER. I asked how he knew that and he said it was on her facebook page (I do not have a facebook page and refuse to have one. I also will not look at hers because Im sure it will drive me nuts.) Naturally I was worried about her. So last night I sent her another text just asking if she was ok. It was kinda late and I didnt get a response. I sent another one earlier today. This time she sent back 2 texts: 1) saying yes she was ok, and 2) she said "if he (my friend) is spying on me using facebook please tell him to stop. thank you." I kinda panicked after I saw that. I replied saying that I didnt think he was spying and he just told me she was sick. I then said "if he is Im sorry and I had nothing to do with it." Im scared to death now that she thinks I told him to check up on her ( I did NOT) and that I set myself back. I guess whats done is done but is this really bad? Did I put a dent in any chances I may have had?

 

p.s. I just want to point that overall I am doing much better then I was before and thinking far more clearly (but perhaps not clearly enough I guess)

[Mutley]

Who cares what she thinks?

 

Stop texting her!!

[IMAbadman]

Wow. You sure were coming to terms with everything.

 

 

NOT.

 

 

I smell drama.

[spook]

Yet more evidence for NC.

 

NC rules...

[sunnyv]

hey there dak,

 

i think its awesome you don't have a facebook page. i don't have one either. i think they are stupid. i thought i was the only one in the world without a facebook page.

[wilrocka]

No face book or myspace here

[dak9912]

Wow. You sure were coming to terms with everything.

 

 

NOT.

 

 

I smell drama.

 

Actually, I am. Completely? No, not at all. But absolutely doing better. Yesterday was just a very difficult day for me. Ex or not, am I not supposed to be worried when I hear that the person I spent 7 years of my life with and was engaged to had to go to the ER? I understand the point of NC but I personally feel there is a fine line between NC and just being flat out cold. However, the more I think about it, the more I realize that was just a flat-out mean thing for her to do. If you don't want the world to know your business, don't put it on the internet. And to assume he was "stalking" her is just wrong. She accepted him as a friend on it. That was just a mean and ignorant thing for her to do.

 

 

hey there dak,

 

i think its awesome you don't have a facebook page. i don't have one either. i think they are stupid. i thought i was the only one in the world without a facebook page.

 

Haha, thanks. I just don't understand why people feel the need to broadcast their lives like that. I guess you could argue a forum such as this is similar but its not the same. This a place to come to for help during difficult times. I will admit that there are situations where it is nice, for example those in the military, but I agree that it is stupid - that's just my opinion though.