We are breaking up...

[Roscoe]

I’m going through a break up with my wife, we’ve been married for over 15 years but she wants and is filing for divorce. My problem is that I’m a police officer and found it quite stressful but did not talk about work issues with her even when they were definitely on my mind.

The shift work was tough and was really tougher than that is my wife had difficulty understanding this. At the start of marriage she was fine and then when our situation changed, you know, children, home, jobs and all of a sudden the understanding went and I felt this put her under pressure. Eventually our marriage broke down.

 

After all we have been through I’m finding it hard to accept, I don’t live in the marital home anymore and having been neglecting my health etc these past few weeks.

[IMAbadman]

Have you two sought counseling?

[Roscoe]

Have you two sought counseling?

 

Yes...but it could not change what was going on around our lives.

[metrogirl]

I’m going through a break up with my wife, we’ve been married for over 15 years but she wants and is filing for divorce. My problem is that I’m a police officer and found it quite stressful but did not talk about work issues with her even when they were definitely on my mind.

The shift work was tough and was really tougher than that is my wife had difficulty understanding this. At the start of marriage she was fine and then when our situation changed, you know, children, home, jobs and all of a sudden the understanding went and I felt this put her under pressure. Eventually our marriage broke down.

 

After all we have been through I’m finding it hard to accept, I don’t live in the marital home anymore and having been neglecting my health etc these past few weeks.

 

What you describe sounds like the things that could be worked out through counseling? Have you sought any type of counseling either outside or through the department?

 

Shift work can be killer on relationships. I'm a typical shift worker and it did a number on my relationship. I'm sure the stresses of being a cop just compounded that much more. Is she willing to seek help to save the relationship?

[Roscoe]

What you describe sounds like the things that could be worked out through counseling? Have you sought any type of counseling either outside or through the department?

 

Shift work can be killer on relationships. I'm a typical shift worker and it did a number on my relationship. I'm sure the stresses of being a cop just compounded that much more. Is she willing to seek help to save the relationship?

 

 

I'm contacting her all the time to save the marriage...I don't know, we've been there and I think she sees it as a waste of time, in the long run.

[metrogirl]

I'm contacting her all the time to save the marriage...I don't know, we've been there and I think she sees it as a waste of time, in the long run.

 

Well if she is commited to you and the kids and isn't seeing someone on the side then you might stand a good chance at making things work. These things take time and sometimes one partner is reluctant to make a go of it for fear that things will revert back to how they were.