MrGrinch Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 My GF and I have been exclusive for about 7 months. She is a great GF and is absolutely beautiful... guys always gawk at her when we go out so it wouldn't surprise me if other guys were interested in her. Recently I was at her place for a family dinner... she still lives with her parents. I happened to step into her bedroom to drop a box off and took a look at all the little gifts of affection that I have purchased her over the months that she displays on her dressers. But in looking at the gifts I also noticed a couple of things there that were not from me!! One was a plush toy holiding a heart... another was a plush rose in a vase. So now I am faced with a bit of a dilemma... do I confront her about the gifts? I don't want to come off as the paranoid / jealous boyfriend. But I also am curious. I have no reason to believe that she is cheating... she is with me every weekend and we talk on the phone most weeknights. The gifts could be quite innocent... they could be from some of the kids at the business she works for... or they could simply be from her family. What should I do? Do I have the right to ask about the gifts... or would I be damaging the relationship and should just let it slide...? Would she really display gifts from other men in her bedroom with me around? Or am I being naive about this? Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Gotta say I'd let it slide at least for now...maybe forever. You don't wanna bang on that hornet's nest. Link to comment
miracle29 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 NO...absolutely not! Now if you guys are dating longer and you go back into her room and all of a sudden it looks like a Teddy Factory or a Zales Jewelry store and you know you did not buy those...uh yeah I'd be asking..but things that were there before you....(not a big deal) 7 months is also not really enough time to come at her with that question..she may really take offense. I still have teddy bears that my exes gave me. I gave them to My little one. They mean nothing to me, but I like stuffed animals. If that help! Link to comment
shikashika Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 i still have a pinata that a boyfriend gave me 12 years ago sitting on top of my bookshelf. It is actually quite cool... a blue fish... he means nothing to me. I still have jewelry that my last boyfriend gave to me and will continue to wear it as it is really funky stuff. not a diamond ring or anything but really cool funky necklaces, earrings. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 how do you know these gifts are from men who recently sent this to her, and not just some sentimental cute gifts from exes or family for friends? Link to comment
Rose21 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Are you positive these gifts are current? I mean, what if they were just held onto by FRIENDS, maybe exes, but again in the past. Or what about family? I was just cleaning out my closet today and I found a big teddy bear with a bow tie and a heart saying "Be Mine" You know who gave me this? My dad!! He gave it to me on V-tines day along with some roses. I don't see him that often, hardly at all, so he's always sending me gifts. My stepdad, whenever he would come back from trips, he would also always get me little gifts, chocolates, and teddy bears as souveneers. Some of my girly frineds have even given me heart felt, mushy stuff. There is no way to tell that these are new gifts. But I doubt it. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Also, she could of gotten them herself. Some girls just like the cutesy plush look for their rooms. I mean it's not like she has cards etc saying "I love you, thanks for that great night!" Link to comment
miracle29 Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Also, she could of gotten them herself. Some girls just like the cutesy plush look for their rooms. I mean it's not like she has cards etc saying "I love you, thanks for that great night!" Yes. I agree. Don't worry until its really time to worry! Now if you start seeing cards saying "last night was incredible luv, did you get the panties" WHOA! Thats when its time to say..."ok we're not in Kansas any more Dorothy!!" Or Beanie babys with the date "April 2009, Love of my life" than you can call it a duck! Link to comment
MrGrinch Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 OK, I hear you guys loud and clear! I will not open my mouth for fear of sticking my foot in it to the point I cannot get it out. In my defense a bit I am about 67% certain that these items were not there a few months ago... and they look valentine's-related. But yeah, 2/3 isn't enough to open this can of worms. Thanks again for your responses... I love this forum. Link to comment
miracle29 Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 OK, I hear you guys loud and clear! I will not open my mouth for fear of sticking my foot in it to the point I cannot get it out. In my defense a bit I am about 67% certain that these items were not there a few months ago... and they look valentine's-related. But yeah, 2/3 isn't enough to open this can of worms. Thanks again for your responses... I love this forum. Hey Hot stuff...a 67 wont even give you a passing grade in College. I bet you a dime to a donut this is from her Daddy-0! TO further ease your mind I also buy my nieces valentines day cards and gifts. THey will always be my little ones to me. Corny I know. Now if this happens again in the future you have the right to bring it up tactfully. If you find out she is gaming you....it still will hurt you but atleast you gave her the benefit of the doubt which clearly means she was in the wrong and you did what you could. I think you're ok buddy! Link to comment
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