Cool Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 I have a crazy question. I am completely straight and I'm a really cool laid back guy. I am trying to meet new people, make new friends, girl guy straight or not. Would it be a crazy idea if I went to a gay bar by myself? If it's totally weird that I would go by myself, maybe I'll get a friend's gf to go with me. I am totally comfortable with my sexuality and I wouldn't care if a gay guy hits on me. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Why would you pick a gay bar? Why not just a regular bar, or a sports bar where straight guys hang out? Link to comment
ad-mortem Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Personally, I don't see why it would be a problem, but a lot the people I know who go to gay bars pretty much go to flirt and hook up with other guys without fear of rejection, and I can see how a straight guy could annoy them. If you're intent on giving it a try though, go with somebody else and make it completely clear to any guys you're talking to that you're not interested that sort of thing. Tbh, I don't see why you'd want to go anyway, the ones I have experience of are pretty unpleasant and sleazy... Link to comment
LemonCheesecak Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 It's not something I'd do on my own. But then again I wouldn't go to any bar on my own I guess (only ever done that to kill time if I'm in town). I'd go with my gay or female friends though I suppose just for a bit of a change of scenery. Link to comment
shikashika Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 Why would you pick a gay bar? Why not just a regular bar, or a sports bar where straight guys hang out? If that's your thinking, Why would a gay person pick a straight bar? to the OP, there is nothing wrong with it... go where you have the most fun! Link to comment
LemonCheesecak Posted April 19, 2009 Share Posted April 19, 2009 If that's your thinking, Why would a gay person pick a straight bar? to the OP, there is nothing wrong with it... go where you have the most fun! I wouldn't personally say there's such thing as a 'straight bar' though if you get me? There's universal bars, then there's gay bars. I dunno why it's like that, it just is (in my opinion). Link to comment
Hammerhead Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 dude your gay!..not that theres anything ..wrong with that! Link to comment
jengh Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 dude your gay!..not that theres anything ..wrong with that! Ummm..wow. Straight people go to gay bars all the time. Wake up. Link to comment
rocio Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Perhaps better to go with a friend, simply because most people likely won't believe that you're straight, and you'll have to spend the next 2 years of your friendship trying to prove that you're not gay. Link to comment
Cool Posted April 20, 2009 Author Share Posted April 20, 2009 Why would you pick a gay bar? Why not just a regular bar, or a sports bar where straight guys hang out? Just to try it out. I've never been. I'm thinking atmosphere might be different and a different mix of people. Link to comment
jengh Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Just to try it out. I've never been. I'm thinking atmosphere might be different and a different mix of people. They're a lot of fun. I go every few months. Definitely a different atmosphere. Definitely be prepared to get hit on. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 I wouldn't personally say there's such thing as a 'straight bar' though if you get me? There's universal bars, then there's gay bars. I dunno why it's like that, it just is (in my opinion). Well said. Link to comment
pianoguy Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 Personally as a gay guy I find it very annoying when "straight" guys are in a gay club. But you're certainly entitled to go wherever you want. Make sure you make it crystal clear to any guy that starts hitting on you that you aren't gay. Link to comment
1WayTicket2Norway Posted April 20, 2009 Share Posted April 20, 2009 umm... if you do go a gay bar, just make it absolutely clear that you are straight when a guy starts hitting on you, because gay bars are one of the prescious few havens where you can assume that evrybody you talk to will be gay. i would be seriously annoyed if i went to a gay bar and started chatting up a straight guy! but good on you wanting to make new friends, espescially with ppl in the LGBT community. we really need all the friends we can get Link to comment
gardengnome Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 Personally as a gay guy I find it very annoying when "straight" guys are in a gay club. But you're certainly entitled to go wherever you want. Make sure you make it crystal clear to any guy that starts hitting on you that you aren't gay. I thought you were scared to death to go into a gay bar? Lightened up have we? Link to comment
Imaginary Posted April 22, 2009 Share Posted April 22, 2009 I would befriend any straight guy that is cool and comfortable enough to feel ok with going to a gay bar. Link to comment
Carnatic Posted April 25, 2009 Share Posted April 25, 2009 I have a crazy question. I am completely straight and I'm a really cool laid back guy. I am trying to meet new people, make new friends, girl guy straight or not. Would it be a crazy idea if I went to a gay bar by myself? If it's totally weird that I would go by myself, maybe I'll get a friend's gf to go with me. I am totally comfortable with my sexuality and I wouldn't care if a gay guy hits on me. I've never been in a gay bar myself, but what I'm what I've heard: 1) Gay bars are actually quite full of straight guys who think that they are they only straight guy in there and therefore bound to pull. 2) Women are wise to this and consider these men to be creepy. Of course if you are with gay or female friends, and not appearing to be 'on the pull' then I think you get away with it. Link to comment
OrangeMoon Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Why go to a gay bar specifically when there are lots of bars where a different mixture of people go to? As a woman i like to go to gay bars, when i really just want to enjoy the music, dont feel like being hit on by straight guys and just to meet up with my gay friends. But by myself?..no..unless its a bar full of drag queens..they are always fun. Next to that..even when there are all sorts of gay bars the dating culture in gay bars is a bit more foreward than in straight ones..reasonably so ofcourse. because they are amongst kindred spirits and thus can relax more. To go to a gay bar by yourself unless you are meeting (known) friends as a straight guy can be perceived as somewhat annoying. Dealing with 1st contact rejection is hard enough..let alone by some straight guy. But if you are secretly bi-curious and actually enjoy the flirty interactions you might receive, then just go for it. Just dont go all uneasy when some guy is playfully touching you somewhere or trying to get your attention. Not all gay men are attracted to one another but they still know how to let the other go without hurting feelings. In the end i think its always better to get introduced somewhere first by a gay friend, go there a few times and then go by yourself if you like it. I grew up in Amsterdam and here..once you go to a club regularly, you are recognized very quickly. Link to comment
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