Help asap!

[hazy]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years, we dated all through high school and now we're both in college. Our relationship is better than ever, however sometimes he does scare me. I dont know if i'm just overly sensitive - and expecting more than i should. He gets really angry at other people (not me) over things i dont consider worthy. He has no problem telling people how he feels - and sometimes he really hurts my feelings. i love him, and he DOES make he happy. I just dont know what to do in this situation, recently...i asked him if he thought i was clingy. He asked if i was trying to trap him, and i jokingly said well that depends if you answer bad He got really mad, didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. He called me in the morning and said by the way, dont ever tell me i can have a bad opinion, my opinion is my own, you cant control it unless your trying to take over the way i think and hung up. I didn't feel like i was in the wrong, i was joking around, and i feel like he uses any excuse to get angry at me and i'm sick of feeling like i have to walk on eggshells when im with him. What can i do to make this better? I was no way meaning any harm, is he over reacting?

[Mia_of_Doom]

Yes, he's overreacting. He sounds like he has a short fuse, which is potentially dangerous especially if he's done anything violent before. You shouldn't have to feel like you're walking on eggshells around him. Continuing on this way won't get any better, since you can't feel like you can be honest or make jokes without him blowing his top.

 

Sit down with him as one adult to another. Tell him RESPECTFULLY and in a non-accusing way how he's making you feel. You feel like you have to constantly watch what you say, you can't make jokes, etc. and it's hurtful to you. If he can't see the damage he's doing and work on cooling down, it's not worth continuing.

[DN]

There is no good answer to questions like "Am I too clingy?" You really put people under pressure asking things like that and that is why he reacted as he did. And when he called you on it by asking you if you were trying to trap him, your response proved that he could not answer in any way that would be helpful.

 

Don't ask questions like that - it really isn't wise.

[Hammerhead]

Sounds like the dude is a bit of an ass..Give him another chance, and the next moment he "is making you happy", tell him about how you feel regarding his anger..It could also be a tactic he is using to control you now and always. In other words he knows about your fear and will use this to control you...You should not feel scared in a worthy relationship or any relationship. Ask him to seek counseling too..It helps.