Coffee date, nabbing it.

[soybeanboy]

Question to you ENAers

 

Suppose this one girl caught my eye, and I'd like to catch up to her after class and strike a conversation and introduce myself. We haven't met yet, but have crossed glances.

 

At the end of our conversation, would it be too pushy if I ask if she'd like some coffee later? I won't ask for her number since she's just met me, but like to meet me at the on-campus Starbucks and etc.

[dhitt]

Asking a girl if she wants to get coffee with you... lowers her attraction toward you.

 

Instead tell her, "I'm going to get coffee and I don't want you to follow me." Turn, take several steps, turn back and say, "Why aren't you following me?" (I talk about this in my book, "The Secret to Control any Woman... and have her thank you for it! - this will work but if you want to know WHY it will work... tips-for-flirting-with-women)

She will respond with confusion...perhaps say something...if she laughs you're completely "in".

 

Next... say, "Come on, it's just five minutes and then I'll get rid of you." Add a smile and take a few steps... if she says she can't but maybe some other time...

 

Respond by saying, "I'll think about it... but it was awful forward of you to just come out and ask me like that." Smile.

 

She'll laugh and say whatever. Wave her off and walk away. Her attraction toward you will have just went through the roof. Once she is attracted to you... then you're passed all her "walls" and you can both get to know each other...

 

Just a couple years ago I was consumed by the EXACT same problems...

 

talk to you later,

 

-D

[ScorpiGal83]

Hmm... If a guy treated me like that, I'd be like "WEIRDO!" and run in the opposite direction.

[michiru]

Hmm... If a guy treated me like that, I'd be like "WEIRDO!" and run in the opposite direction.

 

2nd that. I'll throw in the finger too.

[Scorpion Fury]

no, it's not too pushy. do it

[teressa]

Asking a girl if she wants to get coffee with you... lowers her attraction toward you.

 

Instead tell her, "I'm going to get coffee and I don't want you to follow me." Turn, take several steps, turn back and say, "Why aren't you following me?"

She will respond with confusion...perhaps say something...if she laughs you're completely "in".

 

-D

 

 

 

Response from any sane woman worth having coffee with :

 

"Why the hell would I follow you?" Followed by incredulous laughter.

 

Just ask her to get coffee with you. Say "I'd like to talk to you sometime. Do you want to get some coffee with me at the campus starbucks?"

 

voila, if she likes you she'll say yes, if not, well no harm done.

[soybeanboy]

I'll catch up to her today, wish me luck

 

By the way, I never liked to use 'sometime', it's always a set date like later that day or weekend. Just to be more direct and be more sure.

[purpleduckie]

2nd that. I'll throw in the finger too.

 

LOL halarious.

 

 

soybean, i agree with the sometime bit too. make a def date. like right after class or if she says no then, next class but never "sometime". its too ambiguous then the girl doesn't know if she should follow up on that or he should? etc.

[soybeanboy]

Boohoo, found she has a bf.

 

But had a great convo and made a new friend though!

 

Just glad I had the cajones, haha.

 

By the way, I always pondered how to catch up to a girl after class and what to do, i.e walk with her, how to get her attention, stop? etc.

 

This tidbit helped me out:

 

 

 

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[amystar]

Wow! You know, a guy actually has tried something similar to this with me and it did not work so I wouldn't recommend it. Playing little games just does not work with the decent sane women.