If you are an older female, does this mean you can kiss whenever/whomever?

[Lowconfidence]

So I give this older female co-worker a ride home a few times. She's older than me by 12+ years and has a few kids. Not attracted to her at all. Just giving her a ride because she's close by where I live.

 

What gets on my nerves is she's kissed me on the cheek the last three times after I dropped her off. Of course if I was attracted to her I wouldn't mind but I'm not. I'm sure she's being friendly but I want her to stop. I don't like it.

 

Conversely I was thinking if I drove a female co-worker who was 20 home and I kissed her on the cheek I'd be labelled a creep/pervert, which I would never do. In some ways I think it's ironic that a lady who's senior than me wouldn't be labelled a pervert for kissing without asking but if I did that to a girl much younger than me I would be.

[COtuner]

I think it's a really weird thing for her to do. I think if I were you I'd politely say this is making you uncomfortable.

[browneyedgirl36]

Yep. Tell her it's making you uncomfortable. She shouldn't be kissing you. Honestly, I don't think her age has anything to do with it, though you haven't specified how old you think she is.

 

She MAY be totally harmless and be one of those types who kiss everyone socially -- like the lady on the "Seinfeld" episode who always "kissed hello" and Jerry hated it and finally had to tell her to stop. Some people don't pick up on social cues very well, and they don't seem to notice that other people around them aren't doing certain things. Unless they're told otherwise, they might think their behavior is perfectly acceptable.

 

She also could be hitting on you, hoping you'll be responsive. It's hard to say. Either way, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should tell her. OR...stop giving her rides. You don't necessarily have to tell her the reason since you're not obligated to give her rides to begin with.

 

You have every right to feel uncomfortable. Certainly, in some cultures, kissing hello and goodbye with friends is perfectly acceptable (I'm thinking Italians specifically), but co-workers? Not so much. I would never kiss any of my co-workers on the cheek for giving me a ride home -- male or female, no matter what age, unless I was REALLY good friends with them (and even then, I'm not sure) or I was involved in a dating/romantic relationship with them.

[Dako]

In some ways I think it's ironic that a lady who's senior than me wouldn't be labelled a pervert for kissing without asking but if I did that to a girl much younger than me I would be.

 

You're the one passing judgement on a simple kiss. Let go of those stereotypes and simply avoid being kissed if you find it unacceptable.

[Bad Wolf]

I don't see what the problem is.... it's just a kiss on the check. It's not like she's trying to put her hand down your pants.

[thejigsup]

Older women, like me, have been brought up to always show appreciation for favors done for us, and a cheek peck is quite common among us. It means nothing except that she is thankful. If it bothers you, extend your hand for her to shake. She will get the idea.

[Pressfit]

Nah man not just gratitude. When a simple "Thank You" would suffice. She's got the hots for you. After your body is pretty obvious to me. Give her your hand and she'll just kiss it.