Do I call him??

[emj27]

Wow, this dating thing is so bizarre to me....I was with one guy from the age of 16 to 21, so I have never dated. Now, we've been split up for a couple of months so I'm sort of getting there again...but I can't stand all the game playing and confusion!!

 

I went on a date with a guy last Friday. It started out as coffee, progressed into coffee then shopping, and wound up at his house where we spent a few hours just listening to music and chatting and yes, kissing, but no more than that. I quite liked him and I think he liked me and he said he wanted to see me again.

 

Since then, we spoke on the phone a few times and stuff. He seemed pretty eager to arrange another date, so on Wednesday we talked about our plans for the rest of the week and agreed that we were both free on Thursday night so we'd do something then.

 

Thursday morning I texted him asking him what time etc he wanted to meet up....he never replied, and didn't call, and it's now Saturday night and I haven't heard anything since.

 

When we spoke on Wednesday night he was really friendly and eager to see me on Thursday. Now I haven't heard anything from him since?!

 

He has been on MSN but 'away' all day. I haven't spoken to him, but I REALLY want to call him/text him/message him, just to find out what happened!!

 

Why would he suggest another date if he was just not gonna follow through? He seemed more into me than I was into him.

 

I know this was just the first date, my first date EVER really, first since the break-up, so I couldn't expect much. I'm really glad I didn't sleep with him (it came close), cos I'd feel so much worse now if I had lol. It's just....it's bad enough having my 4.5 year relationship end out of the blue when I planned the rest of my life with him....if this is what dating is like, I feel like giving up before I've even started

 

I don't know if I should get in touch with him??

 

For the record, I don't know if it really changes anything, but he's 15 years older than me. I don't think this was an issue to him though.

 

Should I ring him? Or just retain my dignity and forget about him....I just want to know what happened, why when we spoke on Wednesday he was eager to see me, then just nothing! It's stupid, I don't even like this guy that much - can't see myself having a relationship with him or anything - but I wanted to see him again and maybe have a few dates or a friendship.

 

BLEH

[sweetooth]

Sorry to be blunt but maybe he just wanted sex when you went back to his place? Since he didn't get it, he may not be interested. If this is the case, at least you found out early!!! Good luck with your new found freedom, there are times when there are headaches, but there are also times when you can have a good time!

[emj27]

Sorry to be blunt but maybe he just wanted sex when you went back to his place? Since he didn't get it, he may not be interested. If this is the case, at least you found out early!!! Good luck with your new found freedom, there are times when there are headaches, but there are also times when you can have a good time!

 

To be completely honest and at the risk of sounding really easy, we have had various flirty conversations around the issue and I think we were both clear that sex was going to be on the table on Thursday night (though not LITERALLY on an actual table...haha).

 

Which makes me feel even worse - he knew he was going to get it lol - so why didn't he want it in the end?!

[sweetooth]

No you don't sound easy and I wasn't implying you were. I make sexual connotations all the time, which is probably bad because although I'm joking, it can imply I do (always) want sex, which is not true.

 

So you're saying you were comfortable having sex with him yet he still did not make a move? hmmm....I am confused too. Maybe something came up (personal issues) ?

[Mia_of_Doom]

I think it would be worth it to call him just once. You never know, an emergency may have come up and he didn't get a chance to tell you. He did blow you off but I would give him the benefit of the doubt ONLY this one time. Give him a call and ask about what happened Thursday. If he doesn't answer, leave a message and leave it at that. If he never calls back, he just wasn't interested and it's best to move on.