CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 They are trying to make me go out with my younger sister and her friend to a bachelorette party because I don't have any friends and my boyfriend just broke up with me. I have been depressed for a long time and I get anxious around people and I feel very insecure. My older sister and my mom called me on threeway and kept saying I should go to get out the house and meet people and when I tried to tell them the truth about how I am they just get mad and basically just hang up and say I'm mean for not wanting to hang out with my younger sister etc..Honestly its LAME AS HELL for me to suddenly just start hanging out with my younger sister and her friends because I don't have any and I'll just look stupid anyway. Everyone is against me I feel like such a loser. I'll just sit here all day alone like I always do and watch tv. I hate my life so much I just want to be dead already. Why can't I just fall asleep and just die already? I freaking hate my life its such a piece of crap and a waste of time and space. I'm so lame no wonder my bf left me. I don't blame him.](*,) Link to comment
KG Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 CoCo, Are you sure you wouldn't have any fun? It might get your mind off it! Being idle is the worst. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 I don't want to go at all, I'm not going I will not feel comfortable because I can't stand myself and the skin I'm in. Link to comment
Wolf_22 Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Stop feeling sorry for yourself, okay? I'm sure you have more friends than what this current storm cloud is letting you see and as far as your mom and sister are concerned, well, I think their intentions are based on golden cobblestones. Anyway, to me, it sounds like two things are going on: A.) You're still recovering from the breakup, and B.) you're growing as a person and during this current growth phase, you're doing a lot of "at-home-thinking." I do think you should try to get out of the house and do something. I'm not saying you should go out to that party with your family entourage, but maybe go somewhere else? Why not hit-up the commons or go hang out at a mall or call a best friend to be with. If you're just wanting to be by yourself but still out-and-about, go to a library, park, Starbucks, etc. Anything to get out and get a breath of fresh air and clear mind. ...But the number 1 rule for today is to stop putting yourself down. If you don't make it outside today, at least be proud of yourself and learn to love yourself. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 I don't really think I'm feeling sorry for myself, I literally don't have ANY friends, if I did I probably wouldn't be posting this at all. I just don't have any friends. I don't know why, its just that no one likes me or I come accross as lame so no one really cares to hang out with me or anything. Who knows, I'm tired of trying to figure out whats wrong with me I'm just tired and just wish I could stop caring about it. I hate it. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 You can make friends if you want to. Go to the party, you might meet new people and its got to be better than sitting at home. Link to comment
Wolf_22 Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Then let's take this all one step at a time. First off, what are you doing to rectify this situation besides posting on an internet forum? Do you ever go outside or are you agoraphobic? Regardless of any specifics, it's clearly obvious that you'll never reach any healthy conclusion to your woes by sitting in front of your computer all day. So with that slight law of human realization, why not at least get outside and go for a walk? ANYTHING! Just get out for awhile and try to clear your head. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 I go outside, I go for walks just to come right back home again, I don't know? If I could just get dressed and go to the party of course I would go. I mean really if it was that easy I would go, its like no one understands. Maybe I'm crazy..I don't know. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 Is going to the movies by myself stupid? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 The thing is you are not going to make any friends sitting at home either. What do you have to lose by going out?? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 I don't know how to explain it. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 Honey you have NOTHING to lose in going out. If your sister did not want you to go she would not ask you. GOOOOOOOOO OUTTTTTTTTTt Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 If it were that easy I would go, I'm not like her and I'm not like her friends. I'm not that outgoing loud type and she's younger and me hanging out with her is awkward. Don't get me wrong I love my sister and everything its just lame. Link to comment
KG Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 If it were that easy I would go, I'm not like her and I'm not like her friends. I'm not that outgoing loud type and she's younger and me hanging out with her is awkward. Don't get me wrong I love my sister and everything its just lame. How much younger is she? And you can still be you, hang with her and get for awhile, clear your head a bit. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 You do not have to be loud to make friends. All you have to do is SMILE and say " hello, nice to meet you" Then ask someone what their interests are. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 three years younger. And normal people always think its so easy to be social. I need to find someone who actually understands what I am feeling like. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 OK first of all I can tell you most people want to hear about THEMSELF. If you ask someone about themself you will have NO problems making friends.I may not know how you feel directly but I do know indirectly as my spouse had your issue, but he is better than he used to be. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 I understand that people want to hear about themselves and all that, I personally just can't just go up to someone and talk to them. I just can't do it and maybe I'm crazy and need some help or something, I don't know. Link to comment
LonelyMoondancer Posted April 18, 2009 Share Posted April 18, 2009 What exactly do you mean by can't? Are you afraid, or do you not know how to go about socializing? I was in a horrible place not too long ago and the thought of going out made me miserable sometimes. If I'm being completely honest, sometimes after a night of trying, I'd come home miserable from the effort. But I kept at it because I know I'm way more likely to meet people out and about than at home. If you really think your mood can't possibly go away, you may as well take it with you where there's a chance you'll forget about it amongst other people. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted April 18, 2009 Author Share Posted April 18, 2009 What exactly do you mean by can't? Are you afraid, or do you not know how to go about socializing? I was in a horrible place not too long ago and the thought of going out made me miserable sometimes. If I'm being completely honest, sometimes after a night of trying, I'd come home miserable from the effort. But I kept at it because I know I'm way more likely to meet people out and about than at home. If you really think your mood can't possibly go away, you may as well take it with you where there's a chance you'll forget about it amongst other people. Its both...and if I were to go out it would be alone because I have absolutely no friends whatsoever. Link to comment
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