Not cheating but would you have taken them back??

[yeawutever]

Ok this was last year 2008 a week after my birthday. No he never cheated but did break it off with me for one month before asking me back again and we're still at the LDR.

 

Thing first there were lots of problems with both my parents not liking him esp. mainly my mother and then me having me to leave to my native country. He doesn't really know when I will come back to the US. But see what really hurt me was that he call me that day asking to start seeing other people and that there was a girl he was starting to like. So he broke it off with me. Yes I know that's way better off than getting cheated on but yea it does hurts too. He inicially dumped me for another girl. The mother and distance, lonelyness were excuses. I seen couples that never got along with the parents and they still get marry.

 

So anyways then after a month (I'm guessing the new girl didn't work out) he asks me back and I say yes right away. I never mention anything. I never even sat any rules whatsoever. I just took it as if nothing happen.

 

I never mentioned that to him and still don't, I guess I have developed my own defense mechanism.

 

Would you people have taking them back if they dump you to be with someone else???

[Mia_of_Doom]

No, I wouldn't. It obviously shows their feelings for me aren't strong enough to overcome their attraction to other people. There's nothing wrong with harmless flirting, fantasies, and checking out the opposite sex as long as you know who you love and remain true to them. Yes, he was honorable by not cheating on you, but I can't imagine his feelings for you being very strong in the first place.

[yeawutever]

Yes, he was honorable by not cheating on you, but I can't imagine his feelings for you being very strong in the first place.

 

I guess so but the whole time he say he never stopped loving me. But see if you love that person then why would you break up with them to see what's out there? Why break up when you're in love????

 

Now I did at some point last year months after we got back thought about getting back at him by doing the same thing but didn't. I dunno but ever since that I got even more sweeter, way more affectionated when he we got back, dunno why?? I wasn't even mad, dunno why???

[Mia_of_Doom]

I guess so but the whole time he say he never stopped loving me. But see if you love that person then why would you break up with them to see what's out there? Why break up when you're in love????

Exactly my point. If your heart is in the right place, there is no reason to break up. He's telling you that to reassure you it won't happen again. Completely up to you to believe him or not. I personally wouldn't because the evidence is right here.

 

 

Now I did at some point last year months after we got back thought about getting back at him by doing the same thing but didn't. I dunno but ever since that I got even more sweeter, way more affectionated when he we got back, dunno why?? I wasn't even mad, dunno why???

 

You probably felt guilty about doing it and subconsciously wanted to show your loyalty to him too. But just the fact that you considered doing the same thing for revenge shows your immaturity and lack of trust. Relationships are about communication and trust. If you're going to take him back, forgive him and move on. If you're thinking about revenge, you obviously don't trust or forgive him. And if there's that, there's no point to continuing the relationship.

[yeawutever]

Relationships are about communication and trust. If you're going to take him back, forgive him and move on. If you're thinking about revenge, you obviously don't trust or forgive him. And if there's that, there's no point to continuing the relationship.

 

Interesting when we get mad, then we can fantasize about stupid things but see I'll never hurt him. As for getting back at him that was only in thoughts. Then yeah off course I felt very guilty of having those thought. I don't have them no more. The way I am see I can have angry thoughts one time but then come to the reality and then I feel so terrible and then simply erase those stupid thoughts.

 

I'm guessing that if this were to repeat again and he ask me back, my answer would be ''yes'' yet again. Boy it's amazing what going over heels for someone can do to you lol.

[Mia_of_Doom]

I'm guessing that if this were to repeat again and he ask me back, my answer would be ''yes'' yet again. Boy it's amazing what going over heels for someone can do to you lol.

 

I wish you the best, then. But I could never deal with that kind of instability no matter how "going over heels for someone" I am.

[dreamwarrior]

If someone left me for someone else I would never take them back...end of story!

[faithful14]

it would be hard for me to take someone back because what if it were to happen again? What if he started to like someone again and left?

 

It's hard to to walk away when you care for someone, so i understand. I had this same issue with an ex because he kept coming back...(although the reasons he left were totally different), but I took him back again as a last chance to see if we had something real between us.