greywolf Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 I have this one friend that I haven't seen in awhile. I've been meaning to go visit him, but I never really got around to it. I talked to him a couple of days ago asking him if he was free this weekend, and he said that he's having surgery this weekend. I've been thinking about going to visit him in the hospital tomorrow or Sunday, but I'm wondering if that's ok. I mean, do people want to be visited after surgery? If it was me, I'd probably want people to leave me alone. I just want to do something nice since he's one of the few friends that I have, even though we rarely see each other anymore. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 Why don't you wait until after he gets out of the hospital and THEN make plans to see him? Link to comment
FloatingAnchor Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 I think it would be a nice gesture to see him in the hospital. You can ask if he'd rather have the time to rest and decide whether to see him there or at home. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 I'd wait and see how he was feeling after the surgery, if he is up to it then i'd make a trip to see him maybe get him something special as a thinking of you gift. But if he is really out of it or in pain wait until after he comes home. Surgery is a really hit or miss type thing, he can be find the next day or he can be in pain and want to be left alone. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 ask him. some people like visitors, others want to be left alone Link to comment
greywolf Posted April 17, 2009 Author Share Posted April 17, 2009 k, thanks everyone. I'll ask him. Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted April 17, 2009 Share Posted April 17, 2009 I have this one friend that I haven't seen in awhile. I've been meaning to go visit him, but I never really got around to it. I talked to him a couple of days ago asking him if he was free this weekend, and he said that he's having surgery this weekend. I've been thinking about going to visit him in the hospital tomorrow or Sunday, but I'm wondering if that's ok. I mean, do people want to be visited after surgery? If it was me, I'd probably want people to leave me alone. I just want to do something nice since he's one of the few friends that I have, even though we rarely see each other anymore. Go and see him, with magazines etc, and make it clear that you'll only stay five minutes. If he's not up to it, leave. BUT - he'll be incredibly touched that you turned up and made the effort, especially if you don't stay for long unless he asks you too. He'll remember that you took the time to do it. I went to see a friend of mine after she had a double mastectomy; I thought loads of people would have visited her, so i texted her after a few days and asked if it was okay to pop in briefly. Do you know, the only visitors she had in a ten day stay in hospital were me and her husband???? People tend to steer clear because they're not sure if they should go. So I am an enthusiastic 'yes' for going. If you can drop him or his family a text first to say that you would really like to pop in for five minutes, that wd be ideal. I think he'll massively appreciate it. What a nice friend you are!! Link to comment
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