romeo1546 Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Hey all, it's been a few months since I've posted here. I was hoping some of you could help shed some light on my interesting (but I'm sure not rare) situation I'm in. My ex broke up with me last summer, almost a year ago, and it took me quite some time to get over her. I spent the summer, fall, and most of the winter taking my time to get over her. There has been limited contact throughout the fall and there's only been a few occasions since the new year where we've had idle chat. Well, around January or so I figured I was pretty much 90% or more over her. She was in a relationship (that only lasted a month) and I thought I had come to peace with my thoughts about her. At the end of February, I met a new girl, and am currently seeing her. I was excited to really put the ex in the past and focus on this new girl, but lately that hasn't been the case. I've found that this new girl doesn't bring the same rush or excitement to the relationship that my ex did, and am finding myself often thinking about my ex more. I am appreciating my ex more, even with the new girl in my life. I feel like there was just so much more chemistry with my ex and that overall it was a better relationship. I feel so guilty about this new girl, because she's a great girl and really into me. I like her, I really do, but I feel like I'm trying to force myself to be more into her than I am, since she is a great girl. Has anybody been in a similar situation where they've been in a new relationship but it just doesn't have the same spark and chemistry as their relationship with their ex did? What should I do about this? Link to comment
tulipsfav Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Maybe this this a rebound. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Maybe you are just not ready for another relationship just yet. You seem to be comparing this new girl to your ex and it is doing you no favours in getting over her, it only seems to be making it worse as the differences between the new girl and your ex seem to be making your ex seem more appealing to you if that makes any sense. Maybe you should take a break for a while and be alone until you are over it 100%. Link to comment
romeo1546 Posted April 16, 2009 Author Share Posted April 16, 2009 Maybe you are just not ready for another relationship just yet. You seem to be comparing this new girl to your ex and it is doing you no favours in getting over her, it only seems to be making it worse as the differences between the new girl and your ex seem to be making your ex seem more appealing to you if that makes any sense. Maybe you should take a break for a while and be alone until you are over it 100%. Should this be any reason to contact the ex at all? Link to comment
WomanWriter Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Should this be any reason to contact the ex at all? Only if she's single and you were the dumper, IMO. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Should this be any reason to contact the ex at all? If she has made it clear that it is over then no I don't think ir is any reason to make contact. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Should this be any reason to contact the ex at all? Nope. Not while you're still in a relationship, anyway. That's not a moral finger-wag, it's just bad strategy. It tells the ex you're too wimpy to get off the fence with your new person, and how is she supposed to respect that? I'd consider the new relationship on it's own merits. If you're just not feeling it, do yourself and the GF a favor by walking away kindly. From there, you can do whatever you want. In your corner. Link to comment
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