Have I made it?

[Clarity]

Just wanted to share a positive update, since this board has provided me much support since I joined and, let's admit it, it could use some positive news now and again.

 

My 7 year LTR ended almost 3 years ago. I'm still friend with my ex-fiance, which I'm very happy about - it is a friendship worth keeping. She has been dating someone for many months, but I am fine with that - I have completely moved on.

 

That being my first and only relationship, getting back into the dating world definitely wasn't easy for me. Online dating has helped A LOT. Through it, I came to realize that a guy like me, if he puts himself out there, is attractive to a large enough segment of the female population. However, I dated and I dated, many first dates, few second dates, one one-month short fling - nice girls, but nothing that really clicked. It was about 50/50 between rejecting and being rejected - but I learned a lot from it.

 

Fast forward and a girl contacted me online just over 2 weeks ago. I was skeptical (blurry picture, not seemingly my type) but met up with her anyway. Here is the crazy part: within an hour of meeting her, I could feel I had something special on my hands. We have only been out 3 times together (the 2nd and third dates lasting many, many hours) and there is ridiculous chemistry there. It's clear we've already both developed feelings (and are smart enough not to blurt out anything over the top just yet) and I'm just blown away by the connection we have.

 

I understand the concept of infatuation and the last thing I want is to get badly hurt, but this is something that I have *never* felt before - even with my ex of 7 years!

 

It's hard to put into words, but all I can say is this: before I met this person, if someone brought up the concept of "when you meet the one, you'll know" - I would be the first person to say that that is a load of garbage, I was always the skeptic. Now, I don't know what to think. I've never felt this way before and, I can't think of a time where I've been happier.

 

It's been a long and hard 3 years and this may likely not even be the end of the battle, but as long as life has moments like this, it all suddenly seems worth it.

 

I wish you all the best and hope my story (which I will try to update if significant things happen) puts a smile on someone's face - keep up the good fight!

[keenan]

Yay! Good for you, Clarity!

[lana111]

i think you have made it!

 

good luck with this new chica.

[catfeeder]

Excellent news. and thank you for thinking of us and posting it. This IS good stuff.

 

My best,

Cat

[journeynow]

Good to hear from you, Clarity. You sound good!

 

Did you and your ex-fiance go straight to being friends, or did you go through a spell of NC?

[Clarity]

Good to hear from you, Clarity. You sound good!

 

Did you and your ex-fiance go straight to being friends, or did you go through a spell of NC?

 

We went through a long spell of very LC, almost NC. Maybe 5 months or so? During that time, I was writing up my Master's thesis and split my time between the gym and school. It's actually one of the best things that has happened to me, I lost 40 (!) pounds and went from an out-of-shape guy to a very fit guy who now runs half-marathons (and hopefully a full-marathon one day!).

 

Looking back, we were very good friends, but not really lovers in the long term.

 

This girl I'm with now, it's just insane - the amount of things we have in common, the things she likes about me that I never thought anyone would like about me - and vice versa. It's just crazy - as crazy as it sounds, I want to, and I feel like I will, marry this girl. 2 weeks?! Can you believe this crazy talk? I want to slap myself!!