Pregnancy scare...now my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex as much

[Iwantittoend]

Early on in my relationship my girl and I used to have sex at least 3-4 times a week, sometimes multiple times a day. It was great and we were both comfortable enough with each other that we knew how to get each other off easily. Probably the best sex I've ever had. We never used condoms but she was on the pill.

 

About a month ago she started getting cramps, weird cravings, etc. Basically a lot of the signs that she could possibly be pregnant. So we were both kind of worried about it. She went in and the results came back negative. We were both really relieved and she told me that she was ready to get wild again. That was about 3 weeks ago.

 

Now anytime I try to make a sexual advance at her, or tell her I'm horny, she says "that's nice" or just doesn't really respond at all. She's on the pill again, so we would be semi-safe. I asked her about it and she told me she just hasn't been horny. But for the past 3 weeks?

 

It's really starting to get to me. I've been so horny for the past week that after I leave her I go home and masturbate to get off. It doesn't help that when I'm with her she wears short shorts and tank tops. It sucks...

 

What's her deal?

[yellowcal]

It's traumatizing when you have a pregnancy scare. "semi-safe" isn't good enough, a pregnancy scare is enough to turn one off of sex for a long time. Don't pressure her and buy condoms.

[Iwantittoend]

It's traumatizing when you have a pregnancy scare. "semi-safe" isn't good enough, a pregnancy scare is enough to turn one off of sex for a long time. Don't pressure her and buy condoms.

 

I'd be fine with that if she didn't tell me she "wanted to get wild again" after we found out she wasn't pregnant. I've offered to use condoms and she turns them down. I don't even pressure her. If she says no, I back down. It's just frustrating.

[BellaDonna]

Make her feel at ease by suggesting you double-up on birth control. If she's on the pill- then add condoms or use spermicide too.

 

The brain is the biggest sexual organ, so if she is worried about pregnancy, it will kill her sex drive.

[yellowcal]

I'd be fine with that if she didn't tell me she "wanted to get wild again" after we found out she wasn't pregnant. I've offered to use condoms and she turns them down. I don't even pressure her. If she says no, I back down. It's just frustrating.

 

All you can do is give it time... As BellaDonna said, if she is worried about getting pregnant each time she has sex it is going to be hard for her to enjoy it.

[Daria_Lane]

Make her feel at ease by suggesting you double-up on birth control. If she's on the pill- then add condoms or use spermicide too.

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Agreed. Double it up.

 

Also try to be romantic and not just waiting for sex to happen.

[Cardinal]

Try being intimate with her doing things that don't involve actual intercourse for now.

 

Keep in mind that it could be something other than the pregnancy scare as well. People aren't always open about how they feel