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Do you ever feel like you need space?


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I do.

 

When I'm doing my makeup - my daughter wants to play with my mascara and my husband is shaving behind me, trying to get a piece of the mirror.

 

When I'm cooking supper - my daughter is pulling out the pots and pans and my husband keeps bumping into me, trying to steal bites of what's cooking.

 

...Anyone else feel this way?

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I do.

 

When I'm doing my makeup - my daughter wants to play with my mascara and my husband is shaving behind me, trying to get a piece of the mirror.

 

When I'm cooking supper - my daughter is pulling out the pots and pans and my husband keeps bumping into me, trying to steal bites of what's cooking.

 

...Anyone else feel this way?

 

Yes all the time- which is why I just made a "guest bedroom" in my home- a place that stays clean and is not used by my husband or son at all. I called it the "guest bedroom" to be used "in case anyone stays over" but in reality it is secretly my little room. I decorated it like a room you would stay in at a cozy bed and breakfast. Sometimes walking in there just makes me feel better. Knowing I have the option to go in there and close the door is a good feeling. I have some of my favorite books stashed in the dresser drawer, and some chocolate in the closet that I won't have to share.

 

Shhhhh- don't tell! lol

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I do, lol. When I'm trying to get ready to go out at night, it drives me crazy when my fiance is standing behind me, sharing the mirror as I'm trying to put make-up on or do my hair, or bumping into me trying to find his tie when I'm putting on a dress. I don't want to be rude to him, but sometimes you just wanna do the 'behind the scenes' prep BEHIND THE SCENES, you know? Else, sheesh..where's the magic? This is why ladies used to have private dressing rooms, ha.

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I even feel this way sometimes, and I live alone...well, with my two dogs...They're always wanting my attention or the phone is constantly ringing....I'm really a solo kinda person, I get soooo annoyed when people are constantly trying to talk to me or get in my space....so I can't imagine how it feels to have a family or live with someone.

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Take a deep breath and know you're blessed for your daughter and husband in your life.

 

I so know this! And I feel bad about needing my own space sometimes. I spend most of the day at work and I should enjoy the time I have with them. But its easier said than done.

 

Like amtjrtcet, I've always been someone who enjoys being solo.

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And I feel bad about needing my own space sometimes

 

I don't think you should fall into the trap of feeling unearned guilt for needing your own space.

 

We ALL need our own space sometimes- and when you have it, it makes you a better wife and mom overall.

 

Work is not really your own space- you are told what to do while you are there and still have demands placed on you.

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There are times when I am sitting and having a snack and I see 3 PAIRS of eyes looking at me- my husband's, my son's, and even the cat's......

 

Now of course they can get their own snack but part of being "a mom" is that they think it tastes better when the "mom" gets it for them or shares hers.

 

They are afraid they are missing out on something.

 

This is why I have chocolate hidden in a closet in my house.

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There are times when I am sitting and having a snack and I see 3 PAIRS of eyes looking at me- my husband's, my son's, and even the cat's......

 

Now of course they can get their own snack but part of being "a mom" is that they think it tastes better when the "mom" gets it for them or shares hers.

 

They are afraid they are missing out on something.

 

This is why I have chocolate hidden in a closet in my house.

 

Ah, yes. I know this one too.

 

I'll get a pudding out and I have to hide it. If either of my sisters sees me...they want pudding. They NEED pudding. They NEED specifically my pudding. And, god help me if it was the last one. Then I usually get yelled at by my mom...

 

Same with computer use...TV use...really anything. As soon as I start enjoying myself, four little eyes start thinking that they NEED to be doing that exact same thing! And, I have to just give it up so they can do what they want.

 

I spend a lot of time at home locked in my room...

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