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My bf and i are getting closer to becoming more intimate. He hasn't had a relationship, or sex (he actually said this) for over 2 years. He isn't one of these guys thats goes around and has sex for fun, it tends to mean more to him (espically now as he's approaching 30 for some reason).

 

Now, im just cursious, what to expect when we actually have sex. Will the fact he hasn't had it in so long impact on the um..'event'? (as in length, will he cum rather fast?). This is not a problem, or an issue and i dont mind if he does, i just think it might be good to know its a possibility, so i dont act or look suprised or something and make him feel bad.

 

Im not a virgin, but what ive had with men in the past has been well, pretty crap, so and this guy means a lot more to me, so im actually a little nervous about it all... we waited to have sex, or are waiting instead of jumping right into it. The topic of sex comes up a bit in conversation (fun talk tho) and he asks questions because 'i want to know how to please you...'.... (?)

 

any tips or advice would be great...

 

thanks.

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I won't lie to you, there is a possibility that after so long it may be less than steller. He is, after all, only human.

 

I think the best thing to do here is to be patient, if it's not great first time then it's something to build upon. He seems keen to please you, which can only be a positive thing, so tell him what you like, and go with it.

 

Enjoy!

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I won't lie to you, there is a possibility that after so long it may be less than steller. He is, after all, only human.

 

I think the best thing to do here is to be patient, if it's not great first time then it's something to build upon. He seems keen to please you, which can only be a positive thing, so tell him what you like, and go with it.

 

Enjoy!

 

Thank you!

 

yeah, if it is, not the absolutle best time possible (lol) that isn't concerning me at all. I get that its probably going to be somewhat awkward unless we are both rather drunk...

 

i just have to give him a hug and he um...gets hard.. i can feel him... so... yeah. lol.

 

i dont have a lot of experience, hardly any, so he asks me what i like and i dotn really know coz i haven't done much - or the men i was with were pretty selfsih in that regards.. (all about 'them!'..)

 

hopefully this isn't too much info, but i also decided to get tested, to make sure im clean. i know i am. i went at got it done after a relationship ended to be safe, but thought whats the harm in checking again right!

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dont have a lot of experience, hardly any, so he asks me what i like and i dotn really know coz i haven't done much - or the men i was with were pretty selfsih in that regards.. (all about 'them!'..)

 

You may not have that much experiance of what you like with other men, but I'm guesing you've experianced what you like with... um, 'yourself' as it were. Try and use that to tell him.

 

hopefully this isn't too much info, but i also decided to get tested, to make sure im clean. i know i am. i went at got it done after a relationship ended to be safe, but thought whats the harm in checking again right

 

Good for you, it's a throughly responsible thing to do.

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i don't even know how you'd go about suggesting this, but if he cums before sex he'll last 20 times longer. now whether you suggest this, or take it into your own hands (pun intended) is up to you - but beware he will be a bit rusty, and will probably cum pretty darn fast.

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i don't even know how you'd go about suggesting this, but if he cums before sex he'll last 20 times longer. now whether you suggest this, or take it into your own hands (pun intended) is up to you - but beware he will be a bit rusty, and will probably cum pretty darn fast.

I don't think this is such a sure thing - you're going to use condoms, right? That will definitely desensitize things for him.

 

Anyway, I wouldn't worry too much about all this . . . oh, wait you're a woman, so go ahead and worry.

 

As has been pointed out, the first time he may be a bit rusty, but you guys will be swinging off the chandeliers in no time.

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Don't expect it to last long...

Maybe not the first one, but don't' be surprised if he wants to go again (and maybe again) after brief periods of recharge, and each one is likely to last longer. The first time together can be wildly exciting.

 

The first time with my current girlfriend we went three times, then again in the morning. It left me drained in more ways than one.

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