Psyche Issues

[BlueChi286]

My boyfriend has pointed some things out that I should have seen myself. I seem to display a victim complex, and am constantly looking for sympathy when I'm in a bad mood (ie. sad, upset). They're manipulative parts of myself that I want gone. I also have issues with finding worth in myself and not in what other people think of me, and I am too critical of myself. Can anyone give me advice on how to become a more mature and better centered person?

[meepmeep20]

read self-help books. i'm not a psychiatrist.

[Casey13]

You are very lucky that you can at least identify these issues within yourself. Many people who display similar traits as you are in denial about it or oblivious to it and that is much worse. Becaue these behaviors are probably your life long developed habits you may want to get some profesional help and for sure youll improve in quick time

[LittleLion24]

Two great books to read: "Self Matters" by Dr. Phil and "Become a Better You" by Joel Osteen. Both were #1 New York Times Best Sellers. Fantastic insight and helped me greatly.

[ellandroader]

I agree too with Casey13. The fact you can identify these characteristics is one big step, not everybody can and even if they know, some are too proud to admit it. Countering them is different but can be done...therapy, improving/changing your habits, doing it gradually.

 

Good luck!