how do i make him to change his mind about me

[smad]

I know this men for few years,his son goes to the same school my son is,he went through a terrible divorce and he raising his son.I was tired of my marrige and dicided to end it after 14 years.we start talking on the phone a lot,sharing some personal information and exchanging advises.after few weeks he invite me to his apartment and we just had a nice talk.nothing else.we start getting closer,i new he had someone in his life but nothing was clear about her as she was never around.for few months every chance we had to be alone we would meet in his apartment.No sex but a lot of making out nights.he suddenly became very confuse and he start to back off.we talked and he says that he want to give the other girl a chance.we met at a bad timing and he have this couriasity to know me me better.there is no more texting or late night conversation,i miss him like there is no tomorrow and i cant get him out of my head.

we have so many things in common,so many deap conversation and we are so attracted to each other that it drive me crazy.

 

WHAT DO I DO????

[Scorpion Fury]

Why would you want to make him change his mind? He chose someone else, his loss. Don't you want someone to want to be with you on their own, not because you convinced them to be?

[smad]

I guess you right. no one ever asked me to back off ever.i just need to find a way to get him out of my head.

[smad]

it is just the confusion that he puts me in,that is what dosent make sense.i learned you can only change yourself not others.

[smad]

it's a hard game to play ,you are very young lady and very smart one too,the whole "men" things its something i did'nt do for more then 15 years,it feels like i am in some kind of high school show,you probebly know what i am talking about,you were there not long ago....it's a whole new game i need to learn how to play.

[Scorpion Fury]

Life goes on. You'll find someone else.

[Lamprey]

He was flirting with both of you and he chose her. It happens. He did it right, ended it with you before it went too far rather than sleep with you both. Most likely he's made a decision to commit to her and hence him asking you to back off.

 

Happens to all of us at different times. Let him go, there are plenty of men in the world, so don't get discouraged & try again. Don't pursue this anymore.

[Lamprey]

He was flirting with both of you and he chose her. It happens. He did it right, ended it with you before it went too far rather than sleep with you both. Most likely he's made a decision to commit to her and hence him asking you to back off.

 

Happens to all of us at different times. Let him go, there are plenty of men in the world, so don't get discouraged & try again. Don't pursue this anymore.