Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I don't really know how else to put it? Everything else is fine, but after getting it on for the first time with her, I find myself a little put-off by the experience. Not that it was 'bad', it just wasn't 'good'.... I've had plenty of experiences in my time, most were pretty good For some reason though, this one just didn't feel right...anyone ever experience this? It's like i'm actually regretting it which is messed up... Thoughts? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 First time. Could be nerves. Could be one of those things that gets better the more you do it with her, maybe your not that attracted to her? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 First time. Could be nerves. Could be one of those things that gets better the more you do it with her, maybe your not that attracted to her? Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 No sexual chemistry? Some couples arnt sexually compatible. Doesn't mean you can't change that. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 No sexual chemistry? Some couples arnt sexually compatible. Doesn't mean you can't change that. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Ya it could definitely be a nerve thing. Give it a little time. What was not good about it? Was it awkward, painful, not "sexy"? Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Ya it could definitely be a nerve thing. Give it a little time. What was not good about it? Was it awkward, painful, not "sexy"? Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 First time. Could be nerves. Could be one of those things that gets better the more you do it with her, maybe your not that attracted to her? Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much No sexual chemistry? That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 First time. Could be nerves. Could be one of those things that gets better the more you do it with her, maybe your not that attracted to her? Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much No sexual chemistry? That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Try and spice it up for next time. Practice makes perfect! Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Try and spice it up for next time. Practice makes perfect! Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 Try and spice it up for next time. Practice makes perfect! I tried to spice it up last night! It totally wasn't working!! Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 Try and spice it up for next time. Practice makes perfect! I tried to spice it up last night! It totally wasn't working!! Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I tried to spice it up last night! It totally wasn't working!! The only way to make sex better is to tell your S/O what you want, communication is the key. Link to comment
Perfect Dark Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I tried to spice it up last night! It totally wasn't working!! The only way to make sex better is to tell your S/O what you want, communication is the key. Link to comment
gift from the gods Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Hummm, you seem to know it doesnt feel right,....do you think she does too? I was going to say that from my experience the first couple of times are usually pretty crap....not mentally coz its all exciting and your both really into each other but physcially: you both havent got a clue what the other one likes, its a bit akward coz your trying hard to impress the other person etc...? x Link to comment
gift from the gods Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Hummm, you seem to know it doesnt feel right,....do you think she does too? I was going to say that from my experience the first couple of times are usually pretty crap....not mentally coz its all exciting and your both really into each other but physcially: you both havent got a clue what the other one likes, its a bit akward coz your trying hard to impress the other person etc...? x Link to comment
COtuner Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Yeah, but SHE could have been nervous. I'm usually utterly terrified and anxious the first time I'm with someone because I always imagine he's been with some sort of sexual goddess in the past and I just won't do it for him. Or maybe just tired too. I've had little to no interest in a guy if I've been up too long or not had enough rest that week. Link to comment
COtuner Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Thanks, but i'm 99.9% sure it isn't nerves - i've never been a nervous one, especially in the bedroom. Usually i'm, well, lets just say 'far from nervous' I do find her attractive, and we did have a great time together last night. Cooked her dinner, had a glass of wine, hung out under the stars then watched a really cool movie - it was picture perfect. But the sex, not so much That's kinda what i'm getting at. It was ... I don't even know how to describe it. Boring maybe? It just felt 'off' ... I dunno this is a totally new experience for me Yeah, but SHE could have been nervous. I'm usually utterly terrified and anxious the first time I'm with someone because I always imagine he's been with some sort of sexual goddess in the past and I just won't do it for him. Or maybe just tired too. I've had little to no interest in a guy if I've been up too long or not had enough rest that week. Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 Hummm, you seem to know it doesnt feel right,....do you think she does too? I was going to say that from my experience the first couple of times are usually pretty crap....not mentally coz its all exciting and your both really into each other but physcially: you both havent got a clue what the other one likes, its a bit akward coz your trying hard to impress the other person etc...? x I think she knew something was off too...just a feeling I got. I'd like to agree and say it was just because it was the first time, but i've had first times before and they've all gone pretty darn well so far. I'm almost embarrased to say this but I almost feel like I got rushed into it, bizarre no? Most people spend the entire day after walking around beaming with a huge smile on their faces, while i'm posting about it on ENA....lol that has to say something... Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 13, 2009 Author Share Posted April 13, 2009 Hummm, you seem to know it doesnt feel right,....do you think she does too? I was going to say that from my experience the first couple of times are usually pretty crap....not mentally coz its all exciting and your both really into each other but physcially: you both havent got a clue what the other one likes, its a bit akward coz your trying hard to impress the other person etc...? x I think she knew something was off too...just a feeling I got. I'd like to agree and say it was just because it was the first time, but i've had first times before and they've all gone pretty darn well so far. I'm almost embarrased to say this but I almost feel like I got rushed into it, bizarre no? Most people spend the entire day after walking around beaming with a huge smile on their faces, while i'm posting about it on ENA....lol that has to say something... Link to comment
EQD Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 wow. so critical for the first time. some people click on the first, and some take time to get to learn how eachother work. communicate and give it time. Link to comment
EQD Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 wow. so critical for the first time. some people click on the first, and some take time to get to learn how eachother work. communicate and give it time. Link to comment
EQD Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 and if you felt like you rushed into it then thats most likely why it didnt work out as smoothly as your past 1st times. Link to comment
EQD Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 and if you felt like you rushed into it then thats most likely why it didnt work out as smoothly as your past 1st times. Link to comment
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