In-Person, Or Call?

[andyman]

Hey All,

I have been in a relationship with a girl at my school for about a month, but we started to go down a road that I was a little uncomfortable with. I brought this up to her, mishandled it pretty badly, and as a result we are currently on a "break." After a lot of thinking and advice I've discovered that I'm not really ready for any relationship right now, so I need to break up with her officially. The only thing is that, I haven't seen or talked to her in over a week because she wanted space. I don't want to violate her "space" by requesting that I talk to her in person, and then have her find out that the only reason I wanted to see her was to tell her I want to end it, but I also recognize the value of a face-to-face over a phone call. My question is this: Phone, or in person?

[Scorpion Fury]

In this case, I vote phone. She hasn't talked to you in a week because she wants space. Maybe in her mind, it's already a wrap

[live.ur.life]

I vote to call too. You guys were only together for a month, and I'm sure you guys didn't see much of each other throughout that time, right?

 

A phone call is best.

[twomonks]

imho, i am of the thinking that it is more respectful to meet face to face, even if it is a short relationship...especially since you have no idea what she is feeling .. its also good practice for future relationships.

[jul-els]

If she doesn't want to talk to you right now then just let her cool off for awhile and wait for her to call you and then tell her there's something you need to discuss and ask her when you can meet. That's the mature and responsible way to handle it.

[Pixiedoc]

Well, without knowing the reasons for the break up it seems pretty mutual - if so, phone would probably be best and being fairly anonymous might be better for both of you...

[IMAbadman]

If she doesn't want to talk to you right now then just let her cool off for awhile and wait for her to call you and then tell her there's something you need to discuss and ask her when you can meet. That's the mature and responsible way to handle it.

 

Totally agree with this. The phone is a tacky way to break it off.

[andyman]

Thanks for the advice guys. I think I'll just hold off for now and wait for her call. I just wish I knew what she was thinking...I just want to do the right thing by her. I feel like this relationship is going to end one way or another. I just want it to end in a good way, with minimal hurt feelings and regrets. I still like her, but I don't think the relationship can continue. If you guys have any advice on how to go about the actual break-up when it comes, I would appreciate you sharing it.