Is my girlfriend losing interest in me?

[jamie 1607308027]

My girlfriend and I are 24 and have been goign out for 8 months now. ive sensed her being more distant than she used to be. I do know of this "spark" and well you could say that is well and truly over. I can see myself having a long term relationship with her and she has said to be directly that she feels the same. The problem arose recently. She has started to become more distant in our private times such as watching tv. We still talk normally and text when we are not with each other, but physically we are becoming less "active". Usually we hold hands, hug, kiss etc but now we do not kiss, i do most of the hugging on her or im the one snuggling up to her now, and holding hands seems emotionally vacant. Sometimes she even crosses her arms or leans away slightly. This happened last night and was the most distant i have ever felt with her in private. She hasnt kissed me goodbye for the last two times ive seen her. I sense a distancing physically and i believe this is much more than the "spark" simply calming down a little. what am i to do??

[Mutley]

Are you still taking her on real dates?

 

Maybe you need to spice up the relationship a little bit to make her feel close again.

 

It sounds like she's drifting away...but you may be able to save it before it goes to the point of no return...which it will if you don't do something.

 

I'd advise...make your self more scarce. And plan some real dates....something were you are actually doing something....not just sitting in front of the tv.

[LemonCheesecak]

I agree with Mutley 100%, this is exactly the sort of behaviour my ex was giving me, and when I confronted her she left me! There were various reasons but becoming too 'comfortable' was a biggie. Organise fun activities, they don't have to be expensive, just little thoughtful things every now and then. It sounds like you both are falling into this comfort zone and that's a perilous place to be.

 

Good luck!

[depressed_86]

I'd do what the above have said on the first occasion. If nothing improves then you should talk to her about it and see why she's behaving like that. Perhaps there are things on her mind or things that she's not liking. At least if you find out, you'll know what to change/what she needs to change. And then take it from there....

[depressed_86]

I'd do what the above have said on the first occasion. If nothing improves then you should talk to her about it and see why she's behaving like that. Perhaps there are things on her mind or things that she's not liking. At least if you find out, you'll know what to change/what she needs to change. And then take it from there....

[LemonCheesecak]

I should add that what happened to me was after a few months of increasing distancing, so don't worry, you've noticed this early on and should act as soon as possible.

[LemonCheesecak]

I should add that what happened to me was after a few months of increasing distancing, so don't worry, you've noticed this early on and should act as soon as possible.