impossible Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 Is there anything that should change when youve had the talk to become gf/bf & exclusive? (i realise the obvious - no dating others! lol), but i mean in general - what are some of the things that can happen and are different to when its just in the 'dating' phase. this is the first time ive been in a gf/bf relationship, so its kind of new to me. i feel silly for asking, but just curious. thanks Link to comment
whes Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 it's more your idea or conception of the relationship that changes, rather than the relationship itself. At least, right away. Everything else that changes you won't really notice till after it's happened. There's no right way, proper way, or any sort of way at all. There aren't suddenly a whole set of new expectations (or at least there shouldn't be) beyond being mutually exclusive and doing what works for you two. You're in a relationship, so just be open and honest and look after yourself. Link to comment
jimmy_m88 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 One piece of advice that I can give is don't get complacent. I have only had one real relationship in my life and it ended in large part because I got complacent and took it for granted. A lot of guys I've talked to said the same thing happened to them. They are finally dating exclusively and think they are "done" or have "arrived", when in actuality, they are just beginning. Nomatter how great things seem, you have to remember that this girl does not necessarily have to be with you. There are a million and one other guys out there that would love a chance to be with her who are just waiting for the chance. A relationship takes a lot of hard work. You need to make sure she stays happy (as well as yourself!) in order to keep it going. Try new things, tell her she is beautiful, speak up when you don't agree (don't let bad emotions build up), and have fun! This will be a great experience. Good luck! Link to comment
depressed_86 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 One piece of advice that I can give is don't get complacent. I have only had one real relationship in my life and it ended in large part because I got complacent and took it for granted. A lot of guys I've talked to said the same thing happened to them. They are finally dating exclusively and think they are "done" or have "arrived", when in actuality, they are just beginning. Very true. In the same way don't be too giving and too easy going and always compromising. Else the other half will take you for granted. And then you'll get hurt should it go wrong. Try and have the balance of giving and receiving and make sure it is that balance. It shouldn't be you always just giving, giving and giving and it shouldn't also be you always just receiving receiving receiving. Relationships are a two way thing and should come from both sides. Hope it goes well for you. xxx Link to comment
depressed_86 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 One piece of advice that I can give is don't get complacent. I have only had one real relationship in my life and it ended in large part because I got complacent and took it for granted. A lot of guys I've talked to said the same thing happened to them. They are finally dating exclusively and think they are "done" or have "arrived", when in actuality, they are just beginning. Very true. In the same way don't be too giving and too easy going and always compromising. Else the other half will take you for granted. And then you'll get hurt should it go wrong. Try and have the balance of giving and receiving and make sure it is that balance. It shouldn't be you always just giving, giving and giving and it shouldn't also be you always just receiving receiving receiving. Relationships are a two way thing and should come from both sides. Hope it goes well for you. xxx Link to comment
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