I cannot believe people go thorugh stuff like this.

[Share Hate]

I was full of hate when my girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago and I felt like I wanted to share that hate with others and possible hear back from them if they have been in similar situations. So I started a blog and asked people to send me a message about who they hate and why they hate them. I have only received 5 or 6 responses yet and I could not believe what some people had to go through all their lives. Especially the ones who were abused. What started out as "I want to share how I feel about my stupid girlfriend" turned out to be "OMG, what I go through is nothing compared to some people out there". So I decided continue the blog and post people's short hate stories. But I might end up just closing it down, since some stories really depresses me. We shall see. All I hope is that none of you reading this is a victim of violence and abuse and if so, wish you the courage and power to escape from that environment as quick and painless as possible.

[Seymore]

Thank you for that, and I wish you the same courage and power. It isn't easy, by any means, and not to sound like a pig, but by my experience, it seems like when it happens to a guy, we get the odd eye, and it gets downplayed. Abuse is abuse.

 

But hate is never the answer. I can't hate my ex. If I ever did hate someone, it would be her. I can't, though. Pity? Sure. Maybe the booze is fueling my third eye as far as the following observation goes, but hate is such a pure and empty emotion all at once - so strong, yet devoid of any benefit. Such a strong emotion can make things even worse.

[Share Hate]

I agree with you. I think Hate was kind of an excuse for me to try to get over what was happening to me during the break up. At the end of the day, as you said, it is dificult to really hate someone but have to also confess that I sometimes wish "I could really hate her". Time will reveal how I felt, what I felt, why I felt.

[Blue Streak]

the ones who were abused.

 

What's unfortunate is how common it is and that most abuse is never reported or even posted on a forum like this. Many just feel too powerless to change, and/or they fear change, so they ultimately accept it as "normal".

[Seymore]

What's unfortunate is how common it is and that most abuse is never reported or even posted on a forum like this. Many just feel too powerless to change, and/or they fear change, so they ultimately accept it as "normal".

 

Over a year ago, people had mentioned to me I was being abused. I thought to myself "It doesn't happen to guys", as I didn't really read about it much here. It happens. To all walks of life.

[Blue Streak]

But hate is never the answer. Such a strong emotion can make things even worse.

 

You got it. Hatred is a purely negative experience on your mind and body, always. You understand that your attitude is your ultimate solution.

 

On a side note, please be smart with the booze amigo. The commonality of peeps potentially becoming alcoholics following breakup is absurd. Don't know you, just throwing generalities out, so don't shoot me.

[Seymore]

You got it. Hatred is a purely negative experience on your mind and body, always. You understand that your attitude is your ultimate solution.

 

On a side note, please be smart with the booze amigo. The commonality of peeps potentially becoming alcoholics following breakup is absurd. Don't know you, just throwing generalities out, so don't shoot me.

 

Nah, I appreciate it. You're right, it's a ridiculous reason to become an alcoholic. Then again, any reason is ridiculous. I drank every night for a couple of weeks after the breakup, then got worried about becoming an alcoholic and quit. Now I have one stiff drink once a week, maybe twice.