allucard Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 First off, to view the entire saga that has been the past month or so of my life, check out my story in the infidelity thread: Ok, so basically my soon to be ex fiancee is a cheating, lying two timing skank. She is a pathological liar and has openly lied about many, many things to me. She has also lied about me to others. I have evidence of these lies, and I'm looking for a way to call her out on her BS that will really rattle her. She will not learn the lesson otherwise, I promise you that. Anybody feeling creative?? Link to comment
i19 Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 [EDIT: content deleted] I feel really bad for you, because to be so in love that you would be actively planning marriage and then be hurt like that.....horrible. Link to comment
doyathink Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Let someone else teach her a lesson, and you be the bigger person by simply walking away. Link to comment
Ursa Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Hey, I read your story, so sorry to hear It's really sad how people can change for the worst sometimes You shouldn't waste your time trying to figure out ways of hurting her back or breaking up with her in a cruel way, by what you said it's clear that you're a much better person than she is and she does not deserve this kind of useless effort from your part, it's only gonna end up hurting you even more. I know how much you must be hurting right now and that's normal and it will take a while to recover from that heartache, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to just end it with her and take the high road. Don't waste your time trying to come up with ways to bust her or hurt her, she's not worth that, you already know what you need to know about her. Past behavior is unfortunetely the best predictor of future behavior, you deserve to be someone who doesn't take you for granted like she seems to be doing. Just let her go, it's not up to you to teach her the lesson, life will teach her eventually. I know you must still be so attached to her and letting her go must be hard, but either break up or have a serious and mature conversation with her about all this, maybe consider couple counseling or something, it may help. I don't know her reasons, maybe she's freaking out about being tied up with one person for the rest of her life (which is still no reason to lie and deceive). Only you'll know what's the best thing to do, but by what you said, it sounds like you have a lot more character than her. Anyway, here's my advice, either seek help to work it out, or if you already made up your mind about breaking up, then just do it and focus on taking care of yourself and moving on with your life, don't dwell on ridiculous petty issues of getting back at her or anything of the sort. You're better than that. Best of Luck! Link to comment
impossible Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Doyouthink is right. If you can simply walk away, do so. If you want to be a bit cruel - end via text. Brief. Short. Dont contact her again. Although you might come off as the bad guy then... Link to comment
Cat76 Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 My ex before the most recent one cheated on me and flat denied it even though I confronted him with the evidence. (How silly this man was). Anyway, I walked away with my dignity and head held high and didn't contact him again or get revenge. But karma alway has a way of righting these things and a few months later he had a distrastrous relationship and was cheated on himself. I quietly chuckled to myself. Oh and a couple of months ago he tried to get in touch with me. I was thinking 'I wouldn't go near you with a barge pole'. I'm a firm believer in what goes around comes around. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 i would just never talk to her again, don't give her a reason, act as if the relationship is over. don't answer her calls, etc, and then date other people. act as if she never mattered. Link to comment
John Bendix Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Let someone else teach her a lesson, and you be the bigger person by simply walking away. Good advice. Even if you had the best of intentions to "teach her a lesson", those who go to a level of "pathological lying" will not accept the truth even if it is thrust upon them. They are usually incapable of seeing the "Sky is blue" if they need it to be otherwise. They will deny or avoid the truth no matter how irrational it may seem to the rest of the world. The truth, to them, is what they need it to be. Why waste your energy on trying to get them to see what is? Link to comment
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