MinziGirl Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Everytime my boyfriend changes something in his social network profile or else cover an entire section of his profile so no one can view it, i see it like as if like it is threat. OK... i know that everyone is entitled to do what (s)he wants with his/her profile. Have nothing to complain about. He listed himself there as 'commited in a relationship' and on top of that posted OUR pic there as his main pic. I did the same too for my profile there. Then why am i so paranoid? Advice anyone? Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Then why am i so paranoid? You are paranoid as you are insecure of finding another that will provide the security you are used to receiving. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 10, 2009 Author Share Posted April 10, 2009 What do you mean by the security which i am used to recieving? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 have you guys met in person? Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 10, 2009 Author Share Posted April 10, 2009 Of course. We are together since June last year Link to comment
Maya_A Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Then why am i so paranoid? If someone asked you to just make a guess at an answer to that question, what thoughts cross your mind? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 If someone asked you to just make a guess at an answer to that question, what thoughts cross your mind? true. it's hard to say when everything seems fine. perhaps that's it? you think everything is too good? Link to comment
Simplicity1 Posted April 11, 2009 Share Posted April 11, 2009 Perhaps it's a matter of insecurity on your part? Does it seem like he doesn't tell you how feels about you anymore that makes you feel insecure about your relationship? Are you insecure about your relationship? Maybe you have too much time in your hands, have you considered a new hobby? ...maybe a new hobby that you can do with him? It's important to do things together, have you been lately? Do something new, check out a new restaurant, play a board game, have a picnic together, go fishing, etc... figure out something that both of you haven't done before and you might enjoy - it wouldn't hurt you know? Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 11, 2009 Author Share Posted April 11, 2009 Perhaps it's a matter of insecurity on your part? Does it seem like he doesn't tell you how feels about you anymore that makes you feel insecure about your relationship? Are you insecure about your relationship? Maybe you have too much time in your hands, have you considered a new hobby? ...maybe a new hobby that you can do with him? It's important to do things together, have you been lately? Do something new, check out a new restaurant, play a board game, have a picnic together, go fishing, etc... figure out something that both of you haven't done before and you might enjoy - it wouldn't hurt you know? We do a lot of things together.. like i have said: everything is fine... He is a wonderful person... I think it might have something to do with me... I respect the fact that he also needs his own time alone.. Every couple must have also time apart... Also, he loves me & that i know it. I love him too. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 11, 2009 Author Share Posted April 11, 2009 If someone asked you to just make a guess at an answer to that question, what thoughts cross your mind? All the old 'ghosts' of the past... Everyone have got their fair share of hurts in ex-relationships... Link to comment
Maya_A Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Maybe just literally realize that they are nothing more than "old ghosts"... They don't exist in this relationship but are only figments in your mind... Your mind remembering what happened other times. That being so, "old ghosts" do not have to stick around forever affecting your thinking & emotions... Try your best to find a way (different things work for different people) to let them go & make a new set of references to go by... For example, when you see a change in his social network shift away from what you'd normally think immediately. Think something else like, he loves me, I trust him, & when he enjoys his down/private time it helps make him the great bf that he his. Refuse to allow yourself to engage in pointless, fear based thinking. Re-train your thoughts. You might also want to check his profile less & just let it "be" in trust that all is well. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 i am not that old guys. eesh. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 14, 2009 Author Share Posted April 14, 2009 i am not that old guys. eesh. ... unless it is you who is haunting me all this while... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 ... unless it is you who is haunting me all this while... i haunt a lot of people on ena. Link to comment
Maya_A Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 i am not that old guys. eesh. I actually truly did think of you when I was writing "old ghosts" lol.... But not in the "old" sense of course ;-) Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 15, 2009 Author Share Posted April 15, 2009 i haunt a lot of people on ena. Only on ENA?????? OhHhhHhh... you are soooo sweet. (Any chance of a real life meeting up? ) Link to comment
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