He say "whatever" all the time and I don't know what to do

[Ammanda]

I'm sorry, this will sound like a very juvenile thing but I don't know what to do about it.

 

Often, my boyfriend will end a conversation with "whatever". Sometimes for no reasons either.

 

Tonight we were talking, I told him I had to leave in 10 minute and he said something about how he wish he could cuddle with me but how I needed to go to bed (We were talking on aim, we live 2h away from each other) and he said "wanna make out?" I said yes but how are we gonna do that thru aim? He said ugh nvm just forget about it.

I then told him "uhh ok well I'm going to bed, night" and he said w/e..

 

He knew I was going to bed, and I told him before how I hate it when he said "whatever" and to tell me what's wrong instead of shutting down.. He said he was gonna change but he doesn't..

 

How could I approach this issue with him? What can I do to make it stop?

 

Thanks

[Blue Streak]

he said "wanna make out?" I said yes but how are we gonna do that thru aim? He said ugh nvm just forget about it.

I then told him "uhh ok well I'm going to bed, night" and he said w/e.

 

Seems like he was trying to be sexual with you online and you provided a negative response which turned him off. Not saying you intended that, yet it may have been perceived in that fashion.

[purpleduckie]

i think it's his defence mechanism... as in, you turned him down and his feelings are hurt. his "whatever" is his way of saying "oh well, doesnt matter. i'm fine here!" lol, that would be so annoying. if it's something worthwhile, i'd bring it up and be like, hun, we could try to something next time i'm just really tired right now. if not, i'd just leave him to his passiveness... but that's just me.