RoxyGril Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 IDK but this seemed about the closes category to put this thread under. But, I find myself getting irritable really quick around kids. It's not that I don't like kids or anything. Maybe I'm finding myself not ready for them yet since I am so young. I have a 7 yr old sister who I have basically been around her since the day she was born up until I moved out in Nov. 08. Also, I also have a 2 yr old niece which my older sister had her at 23. So, I feel like I just been around it for so long with my lil sister and my older sister (she's 25) having a kid. It just seems as if I lose patiance and irritable with the noise of crying, etc. Is this getting to me cause I am so young and not ready for kids yet? At times I feel as if I don't want kids at all but other times when I do want kids in the future. Is this akward to have this kind feeling? My bf and I took his 12 yr brother and 2 of his friends for his birthday to go see the giants play last Friday. Any they were just out of control. They were up and down in the seats as well as the aisles and screaming. Though all that was mainly from his brother and 1 of the other kids while 1 was actually really good and stayed in his seat for the most part. They won't listen to my bf until he had to raise his voice a bit at them. I could tell my bf was starting to lose his patience with them and finding myself as well doing the same. I felt like at least they weren't mine and only had to deal with them for a couple of hours and then shipping back to the parents. But, idk is it because I am not ready for kids??? Advice / opinions would be great!??? Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I didn't like kids very much until I had my own. Now I like them just fine, mine and other people's. Link to comment
Mutley Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I didn't like kids very much until I had my own. Now I like them just fine, mine and other people's. Ditto. I love all kids now that I've had my own. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Sure, a lot of noise can be annoying. This is what kids do however. They are people and have ideas and likes and dislikes and TONS of energy. Just takes imagination to redirect that energy when it all gets too much for you. Everyone feels this annoyance at one time or another, but it is very different when it is your child. Link to comment
RoxyGril Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 I pretty sure it is different when the child is your own. It probably gives a different perspective on it. I know it takes a lot to handle them and to deal with the constant energy they have. I can probably see myself years from now having them. Not only is it the energy that they have that has me on the edge of wondering if I want any. But seeing so many people I went to high school with having kids which they are 22 - 23 yrs old. The fact of seeing that wanting to experiance the years of being in my 20's is probably another thing as well. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I did not have my son till I was 30. I wanted to finish school first. I agree with having a life first before having kids. My mom had me when she was 20, but she did TONS with her life, it amazes me. The benefit of having them young is that you have the energy to chase them around and you can have your old age free (hopefully). The advantages of having them when you are a bit older, you have hopefully learned more what the world is about, you have done somethings you have wanted to do and you are more financially stable. There are advantages to both. Link to comment
RoxyGril Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 Which I agree that there are advantages to both....I just guess that it's the choice on when your ready for kids. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Which I agree that there are advantages to both....I just guess that it's the choice on when your ready for kids. Very true. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 I hated kids until I had one of my own. Now, I can't get enough of them and am a teacher! I had my son at 32 and he still can't keep up with me. I've always had lots of energy, so I could probably keep up with a kid if I had one now. Many women are like me, so don't worry about having a child after thirty. You will have plenty of energy. Link to comment
RoxyGril Posted April 10, 2009 Author Share Posted April 10, 2009 Thanks for all the advice...It's helped a lot! Link to comment
shayshay07 Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 I was always annoyed with kids, couldn't stand them. Now i have a daughter, I LOVE her, but i still have to take other people's kids in small doses. Being a mom, my patience and compassion has grown tremendously, but I'm still not a kid person. My boyfriend has a five year old, and she's at the age where she asks a million questions at a time, and wants to be involved in every conversation, and at first its cute, but after a a couple hours or so, it drives me nuts. Same with my neices and nephews. I can't take it. I have friends that have kids that still say they can't stand other people's kids, but love their own. It is different with your own child. Link to comment
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