College Class Conversations

[xxNPxx]

I was just wondering how to start a conversation in class. It's always been a big question for me because nearly all of my classes, talking to anybody is nearly impossible, the teacher paces back and forth and everybody is rapidly trying to jot down notes as fast as possible in all my classes so the only thing I hear people do is whisper to each other at the very least. I sometimes do attempt conversation with girls if they sit next to me which is kinda rare. Just recently I was in a class of 260+ students, sat in the center of the class and somehow ended up having a whole row to myself. Even when I go to my other classes, even if I sit near the center or the front, I usually sit alone even if the class only has a few extra seats.

 

Is there some way to bring down this "wall"? A girl might sit next to me 10% of the time I have class in the course of a month. Then again 10% sounds really really high for me.

 

I don't have anybody I chat with on a regular basis. Nor do have I talked to the same girl twice. But, when I'm in conversation I do ask open ended questions like, "Did anything interesting lately?" or "How was your weekend?" But I don't get much of a response besides a "Not much" or a "Mostly watched TV".

 

Is there anyway to make conversation less forced? Is there a way to make her more interested or is she simply not that interested in me in the first place?

[gidget1]

If you're in a lecture with over 200 students and you're too busy writing and taking notes to talk, it shouldn't really matter! Wait til just after class and strike up a conversation about the lecture you just had, an assignment you have to do, or again, what they got up to on the weekend.

However I am at a loss as to what you can do/say when their answer is rather abrupt and doesn't give you much to reply to. In those situations I just say whatever comes to my head first!

[xxNPxx]

I've thought about talking to some girls after class. But everybody seems so indifferent to each other. Personally I feel as if I'm in a one on one session with the teacher, I feel real lonely because hardly anybody talks. The only thing I worry about is what has happened before, when I strike up conversation, I'll get a short simple answer then quickly ignored. Like I'm uninteresting or creepy

 

I'm a pretty normal guy with probably above average looks but it almost feels like I'm hitting on somebody of my own sex. There just isn't any emotional response that I can work off of. Even if I try different conversation styles.

 

I might try 2-3 open ended questions or 1 open ended question and my thought's and feelings about one of my hobbies which I make sound as interesting as I believe it to be.

 

I'm kind of stuck here. I'm actually putting myself out there but can't strike up a decent conversation.

[avgirl]

Maybe try making a joke instead of the questions. And/or come in late and sit by someone instead of sitting, then waiting to see if someone sits by you. Idk maybe you already do that, but in my lecture hall classes if I'm feeling bored and not into the whole school-work thing that day, I'll find someone to sit by and then we joke about random crap like non-school stuff, or the teacher sucking, or make fun of each other (just in a teasing way, not like a bad way) good luck

[meiling]

I've thought about talking to some girls after class. But everybody seems so indifferent to each other. Personally I feel as if I'm in a one on one session with the teacher, I feel real lonely because hardly anybody talks. The only thing I worry about is what has happened before, when I strike up conversation, I'll get a short simple answer then quickly ignored. Like I'm uninteresting or creepy

 

Wow, I have experienced this so much too. I'll see some people around me who have never spoken before start up a conversation and seem to be really enjoying themselves. I try to do that and I might get ignored, or just a one-line answer. Like I'm weird or something.

 

But really, the best way to make any conversation with a classmate is by asking about an assignment. Most people will at least give you an answer, then you can work from there. If everyone seems to hate that class, mention that you hate it too or point out something funny about it. That gets you off on the right foot and a lead-in to further conversation.