Seattle02 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Do women get scared off when a guy says I love you to soon? You can't take it back once you say it so how would you handle it if the girl leaves you. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Yes. A guy said it to me after 2 weeks once. That is way too soon, in my opinion. I let him know that I wasn't comfortable saying it yet. We did stay together for a long time though. I think 2 months is a good time if you're seeing them regularly and things are going well. Link to comment
Case_1983 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I have dated a few guys who said I love you very very soon. The relationships fizzled out as fast as they started. In my experience the guy is either trying to get 'some' or the very needy type that will fall in love with anyone. I wouldn't break up with the guy but I would tell him it is a little too soon Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Yes, if it's said too soon I see it as a red flag and think the guy doesn't really know what love is Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 It depends on the intensity of the relationship..... Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 My bf said "I love you" after 10 days! I was a little shocked, but we stayed together and took it slow. He said it again after four months. I thought that was the perfect time (3-4 months) because I felt like we really knew each other and had built a solid foundation. We are still together and in love. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Often times when either person says I love you early on..and even a couple of months in..they are in love with the notion of being in love because they are still in the infatuation stage. They only know the "I want to impress you" facet of the person. To truly love someone you have to see all the different facets of the person..the good and the bad...and that only happens over time...not two weeks, not two months. You need to get past the infatuation stage and into the real life phase before you really know if the love is true or just empty words. Link to comment
Night Pumpkin Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I told my girlfriend I was in love with her right after the first time I met her in person. We had corresponded on the internet a couple times before that, and then after our first in person meeting I told her. She was of course a bit confused. But we met up a second time, and she fell for me, and we were a couple... You tell someone you love them when you sincerely feel it.... Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I told my girlfriend I was in love with her right after the first time I met her in person. We had corresponded on the internet a couple times before that, and then after our first in person meeting I told her. She was of course a bit confused. But we met up a second time, and she fell for me, and we were a couple... You tell someone you love them when you sincerely feel it.... hmmm. how old are you? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 goes both way. if a girl tells me too early i get repulsed a bit if i'm not feeling it yet. i just won't reply 'i love you too.' won't hear that from me unless i feel that way. Link to comment
jengh Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Ehhh... It's taken a minimum of 6 months for me... And that was previously knowing the guy for over a year. Before that, I said it fairly early on, but I was young and didn't fully understand the strength and meaning of those words. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Ehhh... It's taken a minimum of 6 months for me... And that was previously knowing the guy for over a year. Before that, I said it fairly early on, but I was young and didn't fully understand the strength and meaning of those words. yeah, it's not something I take lightly. It's not just a phrase to be thrown around. I did say it early on when I was a kid, but I had no concept of what it really meant. It was all infatuation. Link to comment
alli Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 My bf & I said it pretty early... like a month. A lot of times it can be a sign of "neediness" or just being in love with the idea of love, but it is not always like that. A year later & we are still going strong! Link to comment
dragon lady Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 When I said 2 months I wasn't necessarily meaning that at that stage you are deeply in love. I just think that it is an acknowledgment that you are both really into each other and it's the beginning of love. Saying it that soon and saying it a year or two into a relationship are different things. Link to comment
sbux_addict Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I've been with my bf two months now, were dating a month before we became official...and we haven't said I love you to each other yet. One time I said it, but I was drunk and I told him the next day that it was my drunk self saying that, and it does take me a while to say it. I've had bf's before who said it early on in the relationship, but I was younger and never really knew what love was. Come to think of it, I never really loved any of them - it was just an idea. My bf now, well, I don't know if I love him yet...haven't reached that point, although things are going so well between us. Link to comment
coldplay. Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Whenever i feel it, i dont believe you can love someone in any relatively fast amount of time and i invite you all to prove me wrong. How can you love someone without really knowing them? You cant know anyone that fast, thats why virtually every relationship fails, if we all knew what kind of person the other was in the start, there would be alot less breakups. And i see reconciliations as stronger relationships, because they have seen the other person, their good and bad, and have accepted them for who they are regardless of their shortcomings, that my friends is love. Theres a difference between loving someone, and loving the idea that they represent to you. My ex told me she loved me first, she said that the sex was good and she enjoyed my company so she must love me. When you say it too soon, your telling the person basically that your attracted to them, dating someone, liking someone, having sex with someone, all can done without commitment, saying you "love" someone that early in a relationship just says that your willing to "be in a relationship" or exclusive. If the case were otherwise, virtually everyone that made it past the first 2 months(which is when i agree most people start to hear it) would be "in love". I think its the sense of validation that draws people to say it, if the other reciprocates even if it isnt genuine, there is just a rush of hormones oxytocin and comfort that follow. Sort of like breaking the ice on your feelings. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 You should say it when and ONLY if you mean it. Link to comment
Night Pumpkin Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 I was 24 at the time.... hmmm. how old are you? Link to comment
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