onelifetolive Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 im meeting a guy who i have been tlaking to for about a month tomorrow night! were both 18 and 19 and we are going to the movies and then out for ice cream! anyone have any tips? im very nervous!! its the first time im doing something like this. Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I'd suggest something other than a movie - you can't talk there. Go for a coffee! Or go for dinner first, then a movie... He'll be just as nervous so don't worry about it Link to comment
villie Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Sn0man is right! you can really talk in a movie, so maybe meet for a coffee or dinner first then see the flick. Its always good if you can feel comfortable enough to joke around (little flirty). If you still chatting to him before the date, you can always say i might be a bit nervous. WHen i mets someone, i said that and he said he will be too and probably enough for the both of us!! it made it easier knowing we are both nervous (even tho its true if its unsaid). We know the reason for the awkwardness! good luck! Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 I think it's fine that you're starting off with the movie if you're going to ice cream afterwards. The movie is a way for you to get comfortable with each other before you sit down to do the "talking" portion of the date, so it'll ease any tension (not necessarily bad tension, just the tension of a first date!) before you get to the important part. As far as tips, just be yourself (I know, cliche...). And if you have a good time, make SURE you let him know! Have fun! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 this is your first date ever? not with this person but ever? don't go to the movies if you want to get to know them better. i usually do movies as a bf/gf type thing. Link to comment
Forumzguy Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 well at your age, it would be a good idea. when you're at the movie, you guys get comfortable with each other. And when you guys hit that comfortable stage, you guys would pay an undivided attention to each other and not the movie. So you really get the time to talk and get intimate and that may leads to hooking up. Link to comment
onelifetolive Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 well yes it is basically my first 1st date. my ex boyfriend did not treat me well. he really never took me out either. soo...yea lol.... but i really dont want to hookup with him yet..maybe just a kiss to end the night or somehting. just because we ahve been talking to eachother for over a month now and know eachtoher really well. the thing now is that were finally just SEEING eachother in person. we both say that it feels like we have known eachother forever lol Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 well yes it is basically my first 1st date. my ex boyfriend did not treat me well. he really never took me out either. soo...yea lol.... but i really dont want to hookup with him yet..maybe just a kiss to end the night or somehting. just because we ahve been talking to eachother for over a month now and know eachtoher really well. the thing now is that were finally just SEEING eachother in person. we both say that it feels like we have known eachother forever lol So i'm assuming you met online? If you've never actually *seen* eachother, then starting off with a coffee is probably your best bet, rather than just going out to a movie with someone you just met where you can't talk. I've done online dating before, and meeting in person and talking online are two completely different things. Do the coffee or dinner first, or maybe do the ice cream thing first - it'll give you two a chance to get comfortable with eachother before you go to your movie...i'm thinking if you go right to it the movie thing might feel a bit awkward. Most importantly though - have fun!!! Link to comment
onelifetolive Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 youre right! well...we met online kindaof.. but through college... we talk on the phone every night for about 2 hours for the past month lol. so we know eachtoher very veyr well Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 So i'm assuming you met online? If you've never actually *seen* eachother, then starting off with a coffee is probably your best bet, rather than just going out to a movie with someone you just met where you can't talk. I've done online dating before, and meeting in person and talking online are two completely different things. Do the coffee or dinner first, or maybe do the ice cream thing first - it'll give you two a chance to get comfortable with eachother before you go to your movie...i'm thinking if you go right to it the movie thing might feel a bit awkward. Most importantly though - have fun!!! I went out with someone I met online once, and we started by seeing a movie and then going for smoothies afterwards...it worked out great--like I said, the movie is a good icebreaker for you to ask a couple of questions while you wait for it to start, and then you get comfortable with each other. Especially if you're not used to going on dates, the "talking" portion may be a tad nervewracking, depending on how outgoing you are. So I'm still convinced you're fine if you go to the movie first! Link to comment
onelifetolive Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 ahh okay thank you ! im very outgoing and great at making conversation. i think it will be easy. im just nervous about him thinking im somehting that im not.. for example..if he sees me maybe itsnot what he expected and gets disappointed? =/ idk Link to comment
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