rtoycrow Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Well some of you know me from earlier when i had oneitis for a girl that did me wrong. Well i am now proud to say i am done with her for good and i have met a new girl but i have mixed feelings on asking her out or not. We have become friends and i want to ask her out because i really like her but i got her a job where i work and i don't want to make things awkward for us if she doesn't want to go. Everytime we are around each other we have a great time. Now i have gotten to be friends with her cousin and i have asked her if she thinks she has any intrest in me. She tells me she is hard to read most of the time but thinks there is some intrest in me. Now this girl i like is 20 (same as my last girlfriend) and i am 29 and she has made comments about mine and my ex's age diiference which has kinda of made me back off a little. She broke up with her boyfriend of two years back in october and i know she isn't completely over him yet because she still talks about him some but i think she would date as long as it doesn't get too serious. I need some advice. Do you think i should just be friends for now and see where it goes or maybe suugest we go hang out together sometime? Her and her cousin were supposed to come watch a movie at my house this past friday and they got in some type of argument and the girl i like ended up coming by herself which i was really supprised so i guess she isn't scared to hang out with me by herself because before if we did hang out her cousin would always be with her. What should i do??? sorry for the rambling Link to comment
ToodlePip Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Given that her cousin has now probably told her you asked, you better ask her out quickly before she thinks you don't dare Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 call her up, ask her to hang out.. dont bring any of it up.. just have a good time with her.. and things will work out the right way... Link to comment
rtoycrow Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 well after she gets out of class tomorrow she is gonna be coming in to work. i am thinking of just saying what u got going on for the weekend and if she says i don't know or nothing then i am gonna say well why don't you go see a movie with me if you don't have anything to do or something like that. think that will work? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 well after she gets out of class tomorrow she is gonna be coming in to work. i am thinking of just saying what u got going on for the weekend and if she says i don't know or nothing then i am gonna say well why don't you go see a movie with me if you don't have anything to do or something like that. think that will work? leave out the bolded part Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 instead of saying well if you dont have anything going on... when she comes in.. just ask her if she wants to go out this weekend.. and she will let you know if she is busy or not.. it sounds more confident from your end.. also first date you might wanna skip the movies... take her somewhere fun, bowling, miniture golf, whatever you have in your area.. were you guys can talk more and be one on one.. instead of sitting next to her at the movies.. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 tell her you want to hang with her. don't say the bolded part SF said to leave out. looks weak. Link to comment
rtoycrow Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 well i talked to her cousin yesterday and i told her that i wanted to ask her out and whether i should or not and to be honest with me. She told me that right now i probably wouldn't get too far with her because she just got out of that 2 year relationship and wants to just have fun right now which makes a lot of since, since she is only 20. So for right now i am just gonna hang with her as friends and maybe on down the line we could start dating or something a little later when she is ready. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Careful, it can be hard to get out of the friend zone if you're there too long Link to comment
rtoycrow Posted April 9, 2009 Author Share Posted April 9, 2009 yeah i am not treating us as friends because i have made that mistake before. i really don't ever talk to her except when we work together or when we see each other at the gym. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 i would stop asking family and friends to get answers about what you want. go to the source. she will tell you straight up. Link to comment
SoMuchLove Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 We have become friends Be careful with this. When your in the friendzone it's hard to get out. If you want to ask her out ask her out right away before she fully considers you as a close friend. If she says no and you have to see her on the job it's not that big of a deal and I doubt things would be weird unless you choose to feel/make it that way(people feel how you feel) All in all, just ask her out. If you end up being too close your gonna have to play games to get her to like you and thats too time consuming. Link to comment
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