"Are we friends?"

[Thomazz]

So there is a girl, one I really like(d).

3 years ago, we "dated", but nothing ever happened, not even a kiss

The situation then totally blow up.

 

I didn't see/hear her for 2 years, and last summer she broke up with her BF.

She joined our group again.

 

A few weeks ago I asked her to design my personal webspace, b/c she is a webdesigner. I would give her a coupon for a shop in return

 

Last weekend I organised a party where I was the dj, she came.

 

Yesterday she called me (I was like "huh? wow, cool, she never did that")

A couple of hours later she texted me "Are we friends?"

 

The txt conversation was this:

 

she: "are we friends?"

me "is that a trick question?"

she "no"

me "I guess Yes then"

she "apparently no"

me "I cannot follow"

then I called her twice, she didn't pick up the phone

conversation ended

 

I really liked her, 3 years ago, but now I "only" contacted her to design my webspace, and I would give her money/coupon in return

 

Is she wanting more ?

[SpeedingCars]

That was.... random of her.

 

Maybe she's concerned about how you feel towards her as a friend. Not enough detail to really know how to interpret this... it's been a few years. Why did things "blow up"?

[Thomazz]

Things blew up b/c I wanted more and she didn't

 

now we are NO friends, b/c neither of us calls the other one to go out/dinner/movie... we just meet when both of us go to the same place (this only happens like 4 times a year)

And when we meet, the conversation is only like 2 minutes

 

So I wouldn't call that friendship

 

yes she is one of my facebook "friends", so what?

yes she is on my msn list, but we never talk, so what?

 

So I was really curious why she asked that question, we had a pure professional relationship, she "develops" something for me, and I would "pay"

[Thomazz]

Not enough detail to really know how to interpret this... it's been a few years. Why did things "blow up"?

 

well, that is really every detail.... there is nothing more to say