A month later, he has a new GF.

[vertigoxo]

 

 

 

I can't believe how a guy that comes out of a 1.5 year relationship, full of love and intamacy, would just jump on the wagon with an ex girlfriend of his a month afterwards.

 

I know I shouldn't be upset. But it's just so amazing how all the love, all the passion would just, in one month, heck not even one month, TWO WEEKS, he would just love someone else.

 

 

 

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I can't believe how a guy that comes out of a 1.5 year relationship, full of love and intamacy, would just jump on the wagon with an ex girlfriend of his a month afterwards.

 

I know I shouldn't be upset. But it's just so amazing how all the love, all the passion would just, in one month, heck not even one month, TWO WEEKS, he would just love someone else.

 

 

 

 

I hear you all too well. When my ex broke with me, she said she did it because she needed to be alone and figure herself out (she wasn't over her ex before me apparently). Well barely two weeks later she's 'secretly' dating our mutual friend and hiding it from me, all the while saying she still wants to see me as a friend. She ended up stopping that, but gave us both the run-around for a month and a half, before she finally chose him again and left me for good. It's infuriating, right?

 

And her status tonight was "sometimes hearts just get lucky." So what was I, a stepping stone?

[cl76]

It was probably in the works for some time and you were unaware of it.

 

I think the same thing is happening to me.

[vertigoxo]

What bugs me the most is how he told me, "I need to work on my dependence on girls" and then he jumps into the arms of another girl.

 

 

I love liars.

[vertigoxo]

Won't someone please respond?

[thejigsup]

He didn't lie, he does have a dependence on girls. You don't need that. Breaking any kind of addiction is a lot harder than just saying the words. He needs help and now he is her problem, not yours. Be happy!

[yellowcal]

I feel your pain. My ex did the exact same thing to me (Except we were together for nearly 3 years and had a child together) he broke up with me and was always telling me how he'd be single for a long time after us not even a week later he is boasting how he is now with an old ex of his and they were engaged not even a month later. Come to find out he had been cheating on me the entire time with her. It sucks and is painful but I just look at it this way, i'm so glad she got his sorry butt and not me.

[Anon21]

What bugs me the most is how he told me, "I need to work on my dependence on girls" and then he jumps into the arms of another girl.

 

 

I love liars.

 

I have a similar situation. A few days after me and my ex decided on a break from the relationship, she sent me an email telling me how she could never be with anyone else, and that she knew we were meant to be together forever. We were together 2 1/2 years, 3 days later (1 week after our break up) she got a new boyfriend.

[king6]

what they do is get interested in someone, and remain with you until they are ready to call it quits, and thats usually when the interest takes a turn in their direction.

Be happy you werent cheated on, however its still upsetting they do this.

 

it happened to me. Strange how someone can express so much love, feelings of marriage, children, plans for our life, and intimate times.. one day, and then the next drop you like a rock and get with someone in a matter of days.

[vertigoxo]

I have a feeling he's doing this to make me jealous or to get a rise out of me. Who knows.

[vertigoxo]

Maybe he already left the relationship emotionally. My ex found someone new within days of the end of our 19 year relationship. In fact, he spent the night at her house the very next weekend after I kicked him out. Yes, you would imagine that it would take a little longer to deal with the breakdown of a long term relationship but sometimes the person already left emotionally but just didn't have the courage to leave physically.

 

I was the one who left him, but I could see your point. Can't believe I wasted 1.5 years of my life with a flake.

[vertigoxo]

You're right. He's her problem now, not mines, and I'm glad.

[brazilgirl21]

welcome to the club. It's definetly not one I'm particularly proud of being part of... hurts like hell. =[

[vertigoxo]

=D> Well said!

[sasha1982]

I am going through the same thing guys... It does suck, but Im starting to look at it from a non-emotional stand point, and actually its very scary how insecure and needy these people can be that jump into the willing arms of whoever they can find next.

I mean it totally depends on the relationship, how bad it was, what the issues were, etc. Maybe you were growing apart for quite some time... But as someone else on another thread pointed out to me, alot of times the person is just lonely and vulnerable and need someone to fill a void at the time, so they dont make a very rational decision on who they choose to be with. Once the emotions calm down and the newness wears off, they realize OMG this person is so not for me, I dont even need them anymore.

 

I just left my ex-fiance of 2 and half years... He was very controlling, insecure and mentally abusive.. Our final breakup resulted in me trying to leave and him shoving me to the ground.. This happened January 2 and he already has a new GF for 3-4 weeks now. Shes at his house all the time and wrote to her sister on facebook asking when was she coming to meet her future brother in law.. HAHA after 3 weeks !!!

 

My ex is 34 this year, and this girl is 23........ way too funny.. I had always told him he needed a really young naive girl so he can manipulate her. I always called him out on his crap and said if he didnt control it I was going to leave. I am 27, he met me at 24 and I got stronger and more independent in the relationship and he HATED it.. I resisted all his control.

When I left him 3 months ago, he tried everything in his power to get me to try one more time.. Even having a relationship while I lived at home with my parents.. He then called me when he was rebounding saying he wasnt happy and the new girls he was dating were NOT me.. But a month later he meets this chick and now shes living at his place.. hahha SO funny.

One of his biggest complaints with me that he felt I wasnt grown up enough to handle marriage, bills, etc. and wasnt ready to have children.. So he goes for a 23 year old ! OH MY..

[vertigoxo]

That's terrible. As far as I'm concerned, my ex pretty much is rebounding. Immature, yes of course.

 

No matter, because I'm the bigger person here and I'm actually allowing time to heal my wounds before I can move on to a new, healthy relationship with another person.