Night Pumpkin Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 This is going to be a weird post. For a long time I had an idea of what circumcision is which is very different than what it actually is. Not to go into too many details, basically I thought I had never been circumcised based on what I thought it was. But I was quite confused and finally looked at a serious of pictures comparing circumcised and non-circumcised genitalia, and realized suddenly I was circumcised. This raises a lot questions, because for so long I was against circumcision. A long time ago I even posted a thread questioning whether circumcision was a form of child abuse. Now I realize I am circumcised - wow - how could I be so ignorant for so long, and how do I feel about it having been done to me??? Also, I wonder why my parents had me circumcised - it was certainly not for religious reasons - I am just kinda confused. I thought I knew my own body, and now having realized this, I am really worried about what else I might not know...... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Well, with my boyfriend.... He thinks it's best to circumsize a child for cultural reasons. He says that any boy who wasn't circumsized in the locker rooms was often humilated. He listed some other reasons that I really didn't understand as a girl. But, he definitely does not see it as child abuse and is glad he had one. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Can you confirm with your parents whether you were in fact circumcised? Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 He listed some other reasons that I really didn't understand as a girl. Just curious...like what? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Just curious...like what? He said it made it look bigger. I really don't understand that one.... And he said that it was a bit easier to clean, looked nicer (in his opinion), and that made him sensitive to touch even when completely flaccid. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 i think it was a bit of a fad awhile back. regardless of religious backgrounds...a lot of people were having it done. i think one of the arguments was for 'cleanliness'. i don't really get it myself. seems like a form of mutilation. i can't imagine the discomfort it would cause to a young child. Link to comment
alli Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Also, I wonder why my parents had me circumcised - it was certainly not for religious reasons - I am just kinda confused. I thought I knew my own body, and now having realized this, I am really worried about what else I might not know...... It is also culturally-based. In the US, most males are circumsized... it's just the norm & what they do in the hospital when male babies are born. If I had always dated circumsized men & ended up marrying & having a baby with a circumsized man, neither of us would probably question whether or not to do anything different. My bf is not circumsized, which made me actually stop to think about if this is really necessary. Yeah, it decreases the risk of a few illnesses and cancers, but there is already a fairly low rate for uncircumsized men anyway. Now that I've seen what uncircumsicion is, I think I would prefer not to cut off part of my newborn baby's body. People just do what they are familiar with. Link to comment
villie Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 It is also culturally-based. In the US, most males are circumsized... it's just the norm & what they do in the hospital when male babies are born. If I had always dated circumsized men & ended up marrying & having a baby with a circumsized man, neither of us would probably question whether or not to do anything different. My bf is not circumsized, which made me actually stop to think about if this is really necessary. Yeah, it decreases the risk of a few illnesses and cancers, but there is already a fairly low rate for uncircumsized men anyway. Now that I've seen what uncircumsicion is, I think I would prefer not to cut off part of my newborn baby's body. People just do what they are familiar with. I kind of agree with you Alli, rather not cut off a part. but, i think if i had a baby boy, it would be more the decision of the father and i would go with what he preferred. If he was circumsized, he may want his baby circumsized too. If he wasn't, he may not want him. Id rather let him decide. As the boy is growing up at least he'll 'look like' his father in that way. ive dated men who are both and doesn't bother me either way.... Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I kind of agree with you Alli, rather not cut off a part. but, i think if i had a baby boy, it would be more the decision of the father and i would go with what he preferred. If he was circumsized, he may want his baby circumsized too. If he wasn't, he may not want him. Id rather let him decide. As the boy is growing up at least he'll 'look like' his father in that way. ive dated men who are both and doesn't bother me either way.... That's how I feel too. I'm kind of against it. But, I really feel that the decision is up to the father. He understands it better than I ever would. Link to comment
problematic1 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 why are you freaking out about it?? MOST girls dont like penises that are uncircumsized- they stink!! it is completely normal for parents to have their boys circumsized. and its NOT child abuse. i mean- do you remember the pain? no. do you remember the procedure? no. have you suffered any discomfort from it? no! So whats the big deal? Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Most people think when you have a son that you HAVE to have them circumcised because supposedly it is cleaner and reduces the chances of infections and all of that hoop-lah when in reality all of that is redundant as long as you care for yourself and clean yourself the way you need to be cleaned. Just alot of people go with the flow on these sorts of things and do it just because everyone else is doing it. As for why your parents did it, it could be many of the reasons I just listed or could just be because they thought it would be for the best. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 To get back to the OP here. I am not sure how you could not know the difference but that is mute now. Your parents did what they thought was best for you. Is it easier to keep clean? Yes. Does it reduce the chance of infections? Yes. Is medically needed? NO! I have seen little baby girls with their ears pierced. Wasn't my baby so none of my business unless the little one was being abused. My son doesn't remember it nor do I and I think you would be hard pressed to find any man that does remember. lost Link to comment
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