kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 she and I broke up about 2 years now. She has a bf and I have a gf. Last time she contacted to me, it was a thxgiving email. I heard from a mutual friend that she might be getting engaged. She sent me a surprising email yesterday ; asking how I am doing and asking my opinion about something in the news. and talked about her life little. I am over her. It pisses me off that she still thinks that she has a leash on me...a friend of mine suggested not to respond to ego-boost... whats your take? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 If you still have any feelings for her, and can't see her as a friend, I would just let it go. You have every right to do what's best for your own well being. Take care... Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 she and I broke up about 2 years now. She has a bf and I have a gf. Last time she contacted to me, it was a thxgiving email. I heard from a mutual friend that she might be getting engaged. She sent me a surprising email yesterday ; asking how I am doing and asking my opinion about something in the news. and talked about her life little. I am over her. It pisses me off that she still thinks that she has a leash on me...a friend of mine suggested not to respond to ego-boost... whats your take? If you are "over" her, why does it make you angry that she drops a line? Maybe she's just being casual about the whole thing, I mean she IS engaged, isn't she? Link to comment
Fireuup Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 If you feel that she is trying put a leash on you, then maybe you are not as over her as you think. I can't tell you without knowing what was written, but it sounds like she is just trying to be friendly. If talking to her bothers you, then I would express that to her in a polite fashion. Just don't be too quick to burn bridges before you find out the real reason she is contacting you after 2 years. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 If you are "over" her, why does it make you angry that she drops a line? Maybe she's just being casual about the whole thing, I mean she IS engaged, isn't she? I am over her ever wanting her back. I dont like her having thoughts perhaps, she can casually contact to me in order to get a reaction. Link to comment
Llama Dancer Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Are you over her -- or just wanting to be? Getting over someone is an ongoing process. It doesn't happen overnight. It can take weeks, months, or years. There are no hard rules about this. You can be emotionally (romantically) disconnected to a person and yet still be vulnerable to their barbs. Best to let the past stay in the past. Keep the response polite and short if you please, otherwise say nothing at all and keep on moving forward. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Yeah... why be angry. I'd just let it go unless of course you want a friendship with her. Link to comment
Llama Dancer Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I am over her ever wanting her back. I dont like her having thoughts perhaps, she can casually contact to me in order to get a reaction. Sounds like manipulation on her part. Walk away with your pride intact. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I am over her ever wanting her back. I dont like her having thoughts perhaps, she can casually contact to me in order to get a reaction. I'm sure she's just reaching out to an old friend, not an ex boyfriend. Some people stay in touch once they are over the whole break up thing. So you're saying you are over her in a way that you think, "I'm not getting her back, so what's the point?" Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 I'm sure she's just reaching out to an old friend, not an ex boyfriend. Some people stay in touch once they are over the whole break up thing. So you're saying you are over her in a way that you think, "I'm not getting her back, so what's the point?" No, she is a wrong person for me for sure. perhaps you are right that she is reaching out as a friend or establish friendship. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 No, she is a wrong person for me for sure. perhaps you are right that she is reaching out as a friend or establish friendship. Yeah. And it's been two years, so I'm sure she has no romantic/sexual feelings for you any longer. Just take it slow, be casual. If she starts to act weird, or bring up the past, tell her you are leaving and just don't contact her ever again. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Oh and hey... why don't you mention it to your girlfriend that your EX contacted you and wants to chat. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 Oh and hey... why don't you mention it to your girlfriend that your EX contacted you and wants to chat. first of all, my ex gf did not request to chat. it is just an email asking a casual question. I also told to my gf about it last nite and she is very cool. she thinks that she is being girly and seeking attention. thats all. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 first of all, my ex gf did not request to chat. it is just an email asking a casual question. I also told to my gf about it last nite and she is very cool. she thinks that she is being girly and seeking attention. thats all. Woah, your gf is cool. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 Woah, your gf is cool. yes thats why I love her. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 yes thats why I love her. I understand. Just realize that your ex may well be trying to invite you to her wedding? Maybe that's why she casually emailed you in the first place? Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 first of all, my ex gf did not request to chat. it is just an email asking a casual question. I also told to my gf about it last nite and she is very cool. she thinks that she is being girly and seeking attention. thats all. That's not a chat? OK. It's very cool you GF is OK with this. Many would not be. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 I understand. Just realize that your ex may well be trying to invite you to her wedding? Maybe that's why she casually emailed you in the first place? bingo! thats what my friend told me. she wants to get ego boost declaring her love/marriage...you might be right. I dont want to be trapped with it Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 bingo! thats what my friend told me. she wants to get ego boost declaring her love/marriage...you might be right. I dont want to be trapped with it Woah woah, who said she wanted an ego boost? Maybe she's just genuine in thinking of inviting you to her wedding. But, since you hate her so much, might as well just ignore her e-mails. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 Woah woah, who said she wanted an ego boost? Maybe she's just genuine in thinking of inviting you to her wedding. But, since you hate her so much, might as well just ignore her e-mails. so what are the genuine reasons inviting an EX to your own wedding? give me a break Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 so what are the genuine reasons inviting an EX to your own wedding? give me a break Like I said, she may well see you as an old friend, not an ex from the past. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 so what are the genuine reasons inviting an EX to your own wedding? give me a break Well there's always that gift you'll bring. There's only a few people that probably realize her tastes as well as you do. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Well there's always that gift you'll bring. There's only a few people that probably realize her tastes as well as you do. THANK YOU. Jesus Christ. Link to comment
kars111 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 hahaha. you guys are funny..thanks Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 THANK YOU. Jesus Christ. What? Didn't you like that? It's true... Link to comment
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