enchanted771 Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I have been seeing this guy and i really like him. just wasnt sure where we were headed and i dont want a fwb thing. so we have decided to see where our relationship goes which i am totally satisfied with. i just wanted to also wanted to make sure its not a committment phobic guy. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Take it slow, get to know each other, and keep your clothes on until you see if you're a match, and can committ to each other. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I think she already got intimate with him, so I think it might be hard to not continue that. Correct me if I'm wrong though. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I think she already got intimate with him, so I think it might be hard to not continue that. Correct me if I'm wrong though. ooppsss.... Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 My thoughts exactly. :splat: Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Share Posted April 7, 2009 HAHA! yep cant stop now! lol oh well! Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 How long have you been seeing him? Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Over 2 months That is too short time to ask for any commitment besides being faithful to you. You need much more time to ask for anything else like where is it going. Just get to know him better now. I usually recommend anyone, including myself, not to bring out the them of living together or getting married before seeing each other for at least 2 years... Ok if one is so sure, 1 year but that is the barest minimium. Link to comment
Circe Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 That is too short time to ask for any commitment besides being faithful to you. You need much more time to ask for anything else like where is it going. Just get to know him better now. I usually recommend anyone, including myself, not to bring out the them of living together or getting married before seeing each other for at least 2 years... Ok if one is so sure, 1 year but that is the barest minimium. I agree with this - and being exclusive is probably the only commitment you were looking for at this stage anyway, right? lol I remember telling a guy I had been dating for one month that I had a very strong belief/wish that I only wanted to sleep with one man in my life.. the one I felt I'd spend the rest of my life with. He was very thoughtful for a while and he turned to me and said "I'm not sure if I can tell you right now that we'll be spending our whole lives together". And I burst out laughing (didn't mean to, just happened) and said "no no, I wasn't asking you to.. I was just telling you where I stood on sex". :splat: Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Yes, you are right. That is the stage of just being girlfriend/boyfriend. It is when you say you see no one else & you mean it. Be very careful of saying anything that meant more commitment. Guys have a radar for such things & will stay away from a girl if he sense that she is about to tie him down. He needs to know it by himself that he is doing it because he wants to do it. Meanwhile, you go about building your own life too. Remember, he fell in love with you in the beginning because you have a life. Also, it was good that you clarified that it was only about your stand in sex & there is nothing more to it Link to comment
Circe Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Yes, you are right. That is the stage of just being girlfriend/boyfriend. It is when you say you see no one else & you mean it. Be very careful of saying anything that meant more commitment. Guys have a radar for such things & will stay away from a girl if he sense that she is about to tie him down. He needs to know it by himself that he is doing it because he wants to do it. Meanwhile, you go about building your own life too. Remember, he fell in love with you in the beginning because you have a life. Also, it was good that you clarified that it was only about your stand in sex & there is nothing more to it lol do you mean me? That story was just about a guy from way back in my past. I am now married to a wonderful (different) man who thought I was "the one" from very early on and was not afraid of commitment. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 Hehehe... Nööö... i meant it to Vanessa Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 I just wanted to make sure that he was only seeing/ sleeping with me. no musical beds. gf bf label should come later. Link to comment
MinziGirl Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 LOL... i like your term of 'no musical beds' Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 Haha yes well I was trying to say it in a non-pressured way. Just cant wait until we get to spend more time together (which will be soon) I know I don’t get to spend every weekend with him yet, but maybe down the road if everything works out like I am hoping it will. But so far, its going pretty well. Link to comment
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