Robert013 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 Okay so I have been talking to this great women for about three weeks now. We met for lunch on Saturday and it went well. We were lauphing and shariong personal stories the whole time. There wasn't much of that awkward silence at all on first dates. After the date we hugged and she suggested we meet again before I could. So I told here I was free every night except Wednesday. She said okay and she told me to text her. So I texed her the next night asking how the rest of her weekend was. She returned it immediately saying it was okay and then asked how mine was. So I respond telling her I had a busy weekend. She never returned another text, but I didn't ask a fallowup question. So I sent her another question asking if she could meet on Wednesday.. Uh oh.. I originally told her I was free every night but wed..I have my son wed nights that is why I told her I wasn't free originally. My mother said she wanted to take my son this wed so I agreed. This freed me up on wed so thats why I asked her to meet. The problem is I think I sent a mixed signal because I was never able to explain myself and why my schedule changed.. I think I sent up a red flag what do you think? She never returned my text. Did I mess up? How do I fix it? Link to comment
free2Bme Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 So you met on saturday, and text her the next night, which was last night right? Maybe she hasn't figured out her week yet, hence not got back to you. This would be a pretty unimportant thing to see as a red flag, just give her a bit more time to reply. Link to comment
Ammy Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 No you haven't messed up.. If it were me I might not even make the connection between when you initially said you were free and when you're asking me out now... I agree with the above poster - call her and talk to her - this way you know she got the message, it's all clear and it gives you a chance to make the specific plans and if required explain your change in availability. If she doesn't answer, leave a voice message.. If she doesn't respond, forget it and move on to the next lovely lady! It does sound like she is interested, she suggested meeting up again, she replied to your first text... But she may have lost interest because she may be meeting others too - is this from online dating? If so, sometimes people are dating a few at once, so some people change their minds at the drop of a hat! Unfortunately. Anyways give the phone call and try and see what happens! Keep us updated! Ammy Link to comment
Robert013 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 Yes it is from online dating. Link to comment
Robert013 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 So you met on saturday, and text her the next night, which was last night right? Maybe she hasn't figured out her week yet, hence not got back to you. This would be a pretty unimportant thing to see as a red flag, just give her a bit more time to reply. Yes it was last night, so I need to give her time to respond you are right. Link to comment
Robert013 Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 I don't think you have that much to worry about. Like I've said, I would call, it would be a better form of communication in this situation I usually don't set up dates with a text message. I usually do it over the phone. Link to comment
Robert013 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 I waited for her to respond for two day's and she didn't. I was bummed..I arrive at work this morning and check my email she sent me a message. "Hi how is your week going? My phone is missing I think I am going to have to get a new one. Hope to hear from you soon." So at least she is not blowing me off. She is going on a work trip next week, so I told her in an email I would like to see her before she leaves if it was possible. Playing the waiting game again.. Is this going well? I would like some opinions please Link to comment
free2Bme Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 well, the 'hope to hear from you soon' is very positive shame it was such a short email, not loads to go on there really. Wait for the reply and you might be able to judge things a bit more from that. Link to comment
Robert013 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Share Posted April 8, 2009 well, the 'hope to hear from you soon' is very positive shame it was such a short email, not loads to go on there really. Wait for the reply and you might be able to judge things a bit more from that. All of her emails up to this point have been very short. One or two sentences. I think she is a little shy? I had to lead all the conversation on our date. She started opening up toward the end of the date, so that was good. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 why would it be a red flag? can you call her instead of texting? texting is weak Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I waited for her to respond for two day's and she didn't. I was bummed..I arrive at work this morning and check my email she sent me a message. "Hi how is your week going? My phone is missing I think I am going to have to get a new one. Hope to hear from you soon." So at least she is not blowing me off. She is going on a work trip next week, so I told her in an email I would like to see her before she leaves if it was possible. Playing the waiting game again.. Is this going well? I would like some opinions please Well now it looks like email is the only form of communication you can use right now. Guess you gotta wait and see what she says Link to comment
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