SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 ladies, do many of you do this too (keeping old pics in general)? although her ex bf is not on her friends' list, their pics are still there. i'm not really bothered by it. i don't plan on asking her about it. it's really none of my business what happened between her and her ex. i actually deleted all of my pics with my ex, i guess it has to do with the way me and my ex gf broke up. Link to comment
Russ Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 It depends on their break up. If it wasn't horrible, then she wouldn't care enough to delete 'em. The only reason she would is if the breakup was painful for her, which led her to trying to forget about the dude by any means necessary. Obviously, it wasn't. Link to comment
purpleJ Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I dont see anything wrong with that. Link to comment
Seko Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 Some people think it's petty to delete and untag myriads of pictures based on how current and past relationships have gone. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I think, if you are in a new relationship, out of courtesy to your new partner, it is a good idea to remove pictures of your ex from facebook. Those pictures can be stored away in a box or on a CD but should be removed from public viewing. It is kind of like still keeping pictures of your ex displayed at home. They should not be displayed anywhere, not even on social networking sites. It is just disrespectful to the current partner. Link to comment
LittleLost Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 Well, I did remove one album that only had pictures of us from a trip we had together. But I didn't remove the pics that were all over my albuns. But we both did untag all the pictures we have together. It wasn't concerted or anything... I did this because I think it doesn't help having those tagged pics when meeting new girls... don't know her reasons, but they are probably the same. But besides the butthurt of being dumped, we sort of ended it nicely. Link to comment
hailtothevictors Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I think, if you are in a new relationship, out of courtesy to your new partner, it is a good idea to remove pictures of your ex from facebook. Those pictures can be stored away in a box or on a CD but should be removed from public viewing. It is kind of like still keeping pictures of your ex displayed at home. They should not be displayed anywhere, not even on social networking sites. It is just disrespectful to the current partner. Yeah, I untagged most of mine with my ex for this reason. Also, I figured any new girls interested in me wouldn't care to see pics of me an my ex. But I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe she forgot they were even on there. Link to comment
SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 It is kind of like still keeping pictures of your ex displayed at home. i forgot, she does have one photo in her room and another on her fridge. i saw them but didn't say anything because how she decorates her room is her business. Link to comment
hailtothevictors Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 i forgot, she does have one photo in her room and another on her fridge. i saw them but didn't say anything because how she decorates her room is her business. Do you know how long ago they broke up? Link to comment
SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 Do you know how long ago they broke up? mid or fall 2008 i believe. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 Just put up a pic of your ex, around the house or facebook and when she ask. be like it doesnt feel very good does it... or you can just straight up ask her why she has a photo... Link to comment
jengh Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I still have pictures of my ex and me on facebook and myspace. I changed captions from "bf and me" to "xxx and me", but that was a big part of my life... not one that I necessarily want to forget. Link to comment
SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 Just put up a pic of your ex, around the house or facebook and when she ask. be like it doesnt feel very good does it... or you can just straight up ask her why she has a photo... nahhh, that's not really how i roll. she's my gf not my property. so what she does with her ex's photo is her business. i'm just getting inputs regarding the various reasons would someone keep old pics. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 nahhh, that's not really how i roll. she's my gf not my property. so what she does with her ex's photo is her business. i'm just getting inputs regarding the various reasons would someone keep old pics. so if you dont roll like that... why havent you asked her then... i would of asked my gf the first time i saw the pics... been who is that.. she my ex.. oh okay... more then likely she just considers him as a friend. i agree with you, she is not my property but my gf.. and she can do whatever she wants... but why not ask her then.. its pretty simple.. and you would get the most accrute answer, instead of speculation on the forum... just a thought... Link to comment
SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 so if you dont roll like that... why havent you asked her then... i would of asked my gf the first time i saw the pics... been who is that.. she my ex.. oh okay... more then likely she just considers him as a friend. i agree with you, she is not my property but my gf.. and she can do whatever she wants... but why not ask her then.. its pretty simple.. and you would get the most accrute answer, instead of speculation on the forum... just a thought... i figured if i ask her straight up, it could induce her to lie so i won't get offended (if she thinks there's a possibility I would be offended). when i saw the pics i already knew he's her ex. so why would i ask questions when i know the answer... i was thinking asking her "hey where did you take this pic?" Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 i figured if i ask her straight up, it could induce her to lie so i won't get offended (if she thinks there's a possibility I would be offended). when i saw the pics i already knew he's her ex. so why would i ask questions when i know the answer... i was thinking asking her "hey where did you take this pic?" well if her reaction is to lie... thats not good theres something off.. i understand why to spare your feelings... but you guys should know each other enough not to tell white lies... personally i would ask.. see how she responds.. if she stumbles and tells a lie. good chances she is trying to cover something up... or if she is cool about it.. oh were friends or whatever... i always believe you get the furthest with communication and no games. or lies... Link to comment
BrunetteBarbie Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 I disagree with the other posters, cause I dont think it is "disrespectful" to keep pics of the ex (as long as it is a pic of both of them, not a photo with ONLY the ex in it). Including both keeping them at home to themselves, and keeping them on a social site.... their ex is a part of their life, and has nothing to do with the new partner. So if Im dating a guy, and he still has a pic of him and his ex cuz he thinks its a nice memory, or just rly thinks its a nice shot, who am I to say he should delete it, or even be bothered about it.. Link to comment
girl68 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 Doesn't matter what we all do... I know lots who delete all old pics of ex lovers and some who keep all old pics of ex lovers. If you're not bothered by it, then it's all good. And if you are, keeping quiet is going to drive you mad. I delete my pics... only because then I have the right to ask that he does the same because it would bother me. Link to comment
SpaceGray Posted April 6, 2009 Author Share Posted April 6, 2009 If you're not bothered by it, then it's all good. if i say i was bothered, it would be exaggerating. it's just one of those things that make you go: "hmmmm..." Link to comment
girl68 Posted April 6, 2009 Share Posted April 6, 2009 if i say i was bothered, it would be exaggerating. it's just one of those things that make you go: "hmmmm..." well, as many people say, some do some don't. Link to comment
pinkrobot Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 Well, what kind of pictures are they? Are they, for instance, with groups of friends, or are they of your girlfriend and her ex cuddling/kissing/being obviously intimate in any way? I would be bothered by it...a lot of people are saying it's not a big deal, but putting pictures on facebook is a way to show your friends/family what's going on in your life, and obviously this guy shouldn't be a significant part of her life anymore...so why would she feel the need to keep them up? Although, my last ex always had pictures of him and his ex up on facebook, and I could never bring myself to mention them to him. I felt like I was being a bit controlling then, making a big deal about the pictures he kept himself tagged in...but that's just me, so it depends if you're comfortable mentioning it to her! Link to comment
faithful14 Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 i still have pictures of me and my ex but they're not you know...lovey dovey pics.....just us hanging out with a bunch of friends having a good time. It doesn't mean anything to me other than just memories of the past. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I would not be comfortable with a guy who had picture of his ex displayed on his facebook page or in his home...even if others were in the photo. It is one thing if those photos are in an album tucked away on a shelf..I certainly understand that it is his past and memories of events and times in his life..but on display is a whole other matter. I would find it disrespectful to me if he had pictures of his ex displayed. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 i put anything from exs in boxes. i guess that would be the same as removing them from a website or dating profile. why keep them up? they are your ex. Link to comment
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