Too scared to ask

[krrg]

Ok, so I'm a 47 yr old lesbian and I really like this woman, and have for a long time. BUT am too shy, afraid of rejection, afraid I will offend her if I ask her out. We know each other because she used to come into a store I worked in. I am also afraid she is straight. What to do? I haven't been in a relationship in the past 7 yrs either. Jeez

[Celadon]

You should probably bring up the subject of dating in general. If she talks about all the dates or relationships she's had with men, then, well you know she's straight. I'd be careful of asking someone out unless you know that basic info about her first. Sure, you could just ask her out and consider yourself brave (regardless of how she responds), but you sound too nervous and the possible misunderstanding could create awkwardness and embarrassment.

[krrg]

yeah, I agree. She is divorced and mentioned she doesn't want to date yet. But she used to come by just to see me and talk. Kind of flirting but not sure. I'm just fooling myself I guess.

[Celadon]

Well, I can't speak to your situation since I don't know you or her, but as a straight woman, I've had "chemistry" with female friends and it was entirely platonic. It may be little consolation, but your friend is probably very comfortable with you and feels she can be herself around you, which I would view as a compliment. You are someone she can joke around with, share her thoughts with. She probably appreciates you as a person, and these days, that's saying a lot!

[krrg]

Thanks for saying that. I have been feeling really horrible about another situation recently (see my post about Difficult Situation). I just want to disappear off the face of the earth. I try to be a good person. I am a good person. I try my best to be a good friend.

[SoMuchLove]

If you want to know if she is straight, bring up a discussion about dating and hear what she has to say. If she is straight then you'll just have to hold out until you find someone else to be interested in.

 

I also sense that because you haven't dated in a long time you'd really like to be with this women. She's that one and only that you have in front of you and that's when they become an object of your affections(the person seems near perfect etc.)

 

So give it a shot and above all else remember that there are always other people out there.

[Blue Streak]

I just want to disappear off the face of the earth. I try to be a good person. I am a good person. I try my best to be a good friend.

 

Please do not disappear, you are quite the norm today. Are you using all the many options you have online to find some good friends and a mate? There are many others out there looking for friends and mates like you.