What are the consequences of sleeping w/ my roomate?

[roxycz5]

so i'm new to this, but here is the issue at hand: i am severly attracted to my roomate. he's only been onboard for a month now, but very straight, French like me, extremely handsome face, kind, considerate, pays the other half of the bills you may ask, is there flirtation? well, the answer is yes. many a times we've stayed up late watching movies together and on one occasion I was so exhausted that I passed out somewhere in the middle of the movie in his bed and ended up staying the night.

 

on a more intimate note, this morning (in preparation for a possible date that fell through), he asked me to tweeze (and might I add with my own tweezers) some random long hairs on his back. on a more recent note, I spent the day with him sipping cafe lattes, shopping together and playing pool at a jazz bar. As I left to head to a friend's for a dinner party, I texted him to thank him for showing me this place in the city and his response was 'it is cool babe, it was fun being with you.' I responded with likewise and BTW his crush (with whom he was supposed to go on a date and for which i was tweezing his back hair) that she would come around and would be foolish not to. To which he replied 'LOL... I will let you know but I don't think so. Thank you anyway.'

 

So, I guess what I'm saying is I am going to most certainly act on my animal instincts and then what? what are the consequences. i mean we have this great respect for each other and i don't want to lose that. instead of roomates we're really more like house partners. thoughts?

[Sn0man]

Well, sounds good and all, but what if it doesn't work out? Then you'll be living with an 'ex' and we all know how fun that is...

 

That's a real toughie though - if you think it's worth the risk, then go for it. But keep in mind how awkward things could get...

[Lamour detruit]

You will have to decide if you want to take the risk of possibly messing up a good roommate situation. If it turns out well, clearly it will be nice to have him as close. But then there is the chance that it doesn't,and you will be stuck with that experience, and in a situation that will make for awkward living every time you come back home.

 

Wait it out a little bit longer,if you truly feel this is someone you see yourself being with, then I suppose you could go for it.

[purpleduckie]

well, the consequences as i see it... is that if you sleep with him, he could still be going after that girl... so you won't be relationship material.... and you will be 2nd to her. could you keep your feelings from being hurt? could you have it in your face for as long as you live there?

[sophie274]

What if you make advances and he turns you down? I'm not there with you, but it doesn't seem obvious to me that he likes you that way. (For example, I wouldn't ask a guy I like to tweeze any hair on me, ever.)

 

If you thought you were in love with this person and couldn't live without him, then I would say go for it ... it would be worth the risk. But if you just want to satisfy your animal instincts, find someone else. It's hard to find a great roommate that you get along with, and who is responsible - don't jeopardize that just to scratch an itch.

[WorkingInLin]

If you think that he's attracted to you and you're attracted to him, and that a potential relationship could come out of it, you should go for it. However, if things turn bad, that could become awkward. Also, if you're just doing it for the sex, I agree with the above poster, find someone else. Living with someone you just slept with is too close to a relationship, and if it isn't a relationship...again, it could make everything awkward.

[WizardofOz]

If you want a relationship, go for it. You never know what will come of it and just because you are roommates shouldn't stop it from happening. Worst case scenario is you find another place to live which wouldn't be all that hard if you live in a big city.

 

If you are just looking for casual sex then don't do it. It's not worth it.