I am so pessemistic!

[enchanted771]

I know its bad, but i have been hurt so much, that i think that is always going to be the outcome. i am growing closer with the guy i am seeing, and i know he cares and wants to see me more. he is just so perfect and i am afraid something will go wrong eventually.

[steelcitymstro]

There's a saying about pessimists.....either they're always getting to be proved right, or when they're wrong, they're pleasantly surprised!

 

Your guy needs to know how you feel--the more he knows about how you feel about things, the less likely it will be that things will go wrong. Just saying "I've been hurt a lot in the past and I need you to____________________________" will go a long way towards getting things off to a good start.

[ellandroader]

Speaking as a guy who has just been with a self proclaimed pessimist, you have to talk this out with him. Ultimately a leap of faith is needed from you too as well as good communication. I didn't really get this and I know how I felt. If you don't address it, he may feel he is getting the short end of the stick when truly, he has done nothing to deserve it.

 

If he is a good guy, he will understand and will do his utmost to work with you and beat down the barriers one by one.

[qqqq]

im thinking your best bet is to just talk to him, let him know. If your holding back just a tad because your affraid to get hurt, let him know that. BUT, even though you maybe scared of that and it would be difficult, if you want it to work - you need to let go of the fears and fall in, otherwise there is the chance he will move on as he might feel your not really in the relationship/him/us....

[enchanted771]

Your right. i just have to let go and just dont fight my feelings. we have such a great spark between us and he is such an incredible person and i dont want my fears to get in the way.