brandnew1 Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 I can honestly say that I don't think I will ever fully be over my ex. We dated for 6 years, broke up for 2 and got back together for 3 months. When he broke up with me he told me he thought it would be easier to do it now instead of later, once we got deeper into things. It was out of the blue. We'd just started saying "I love you" again. When he told me that he didn't see us together I sent him a long, mean text message saying that he should never talk to me again. I did that out of anger. He called me once that night and I didn't answer. He hasn't tried to contact me once -- in 6 MONTHS -- and I stuck to my word and haven't spoken to him or contacted him via ANY method either. Sometimes I miss him so much I can't breathe. Link to comment
Laura11111 Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Good for you. Keeping NC is a great way to go about getting over someone. You'll get over him and move on. We all do. Give it time, and stay strong Link to comment
loulee Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 try not to feel so guilty we we all express anger when we are suddenly hurt by people we love. what you have got to do is move on. stop dwelling on what if and why? and start your days ahead with what now. try and do fulfilling things that make you happy and reward yourself for it. make a list put them on the fridge and work through them one at a time at your pace . you will slowly heal but you have to put in positive thoughts and efforts to do this.....as only you can. you feel that you dont have proper closure..acceptance is the key......stopping keeping yourself from enjoying life to dont let your unhappiness over this break up control you because in effect this means that HE is still controlling you and how you feel....rise above this he does not deserve to have this power. so take it back and start making some new happy things happen for you....do it..one day at a time..good luck Link to comment
supp11 Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 why don't u contact him? maybe he is saying the same thing u are? Link to comment
twomonks Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 hey there, i am with supp11. if you miss him, there is no harm in contacting him just to feel him out and see what he is up to. doesn't mean that you still can't keep the call/a lunch date on your terms... just be prepared for any outcome.. if you contact him, let us know how it goes. leone Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 hey there, i am with supp11. if you miss him, there is no harm in contacting him just to feel him out and see what he is up to. doesn't mean that you still can't keep the call/a lunch date on your terms... just be prepared for any outcome.. if you contact him, let us know how it goes. leone i third that opinion. Link to comment
createhappiness Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 i can't say i'd fully agree on contacting him now given the history. if you still feel a piercing pain from breaking up 6 months ago, then keep going with NC. you're just not ready. you run the risk of more heartache and setting yourself back. mull over your decision to contact for a couple more days, maybe you're just having a bad day today and you'll change your mind... good luck Link to comment
rubberandsoul Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 so you were together for 6 years, and after two years you got back together only for him to dump you after only 3 months because he didn't see himself with you? he sounds like trouble. who broke up with who the first time? Link to comment
brandnew1 Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 so you were together for 6 years, and after two years you got back together only for him to dump you after only 3 months because he didn't see himself with you? he sounds like trouble. who broke up with who the first time? Yeah. I broke up with him the first time. It was pretty mutual but I brought it up. We had dated since the first week of college, both 17 years old and by the time we broke up the first time we were 23 and living 6 hours apart. Shortly after our break up he started dating his college roommate's ex-girlfriend. I knew her well and it really hurt. No one told me for 6 months until I saw her profile picture on facebook (she had the nerve to friend me and I had no idea about their relationship) -- it was of the two of them on her graduation day. Anyway, I was very reluctant to get back with him but he convinced me to. I think he is back together with her. Appreciate the suggestions but I will absolutely not contact him. He knows that I will not contact him so if he wants to speak to me then he knows what to do. He always told me that I am really good at "cutting people out of [my] life" -- it pissed me off, but I guess he is right. Just so sad to me. When we started dating again I truly thought that was it and we would be together for good. Everything seemed so great. Link to comment
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