ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 You almost never get in touch with her once that initial correspondence-lol I met this pretty girl on Plenty of Fish and it took her 5 days to respond to my message. Then we talked again and I gave her email and it took her another 4 days to respond. Then she finally emailed me at my personal email on Tuesday of this past week and have not gotten a reply from her yet. So this means she 1. Has tons of guys messaging her where it's for me to fall through the cracks. 2.Already has a boyfriend 3.Already dating 2 or more guys from POF So I say all this to say that even when a pretty girl responds back you are competing with so many other guys that you never get to talk to her. So My next move is just to send my number because it;s clear that I'm getting nowhere with email. Maybe I should reply to a Ugly girl?-lol Link to comment
bulletproof Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 You forgot #4: maybe she has a life? Five days is not that long. You don't know what her life is like. Maybe she rarely checks POF, or the internet for that matter. Btw, I find your "joke" at the end about contacting an ugly girl pretty typical of a guy who's perpetually single. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 You forgot #4: maybe she has a life? Five days is not that long. You don't know what her life is like. Maybe she rarely checks POF, or the internet for that matter. Btw, I find your "joke" at the end about contacting an ugly girl pretty typical of a guy who's perpetually single. Well wouldn't number 4 tie into the first three?? She is out having fun with another man-lol Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 You forgot #4: maybe she has a life? Five days is not that long. You don't know what her life is like. Maybe she rarely checks POF, or the internet for that matter. Btw, I find your "joke" at the end about contacting an ugly girl pretty typical of a guy who's perpetually single. Agree with this - not a nice way to think about people, ranking them constantly. Ho hum. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 Maybe she isn't all that interested in you. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 Well wouldn't number 4 tie into the first three?? She is out having fun with another man-lol Perhaps. Probably a man who isn't waiting by the internet for five days, because he's out having a life, too. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 Maybe she isn't all that interested in you. I just said she probably gets messages from new guys all the time so that's why I haven't talked to her. This is the DOWNSIDE of talking to a pretty girl on a dating site. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 Perhaps. Probably a man who isn't waiting by the internet for five days, because he's out having a life, too. Well there was not many cute girls to occupy me this week so that's why she stood out. And please stop with the "HAVING A LIFE" thing before I go to toilet. It's old and tired. Link to comment
Sn0man Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 I just said she probably gets messages from new guys all the time so that's why I haven't talked to her. This is the DOWNSIDE of talking to a pretty girl on a dating site. Don't forget that alot of these 'pretty' girls, especially on POF, are really only on there for an ego boost. They keep their profiles up with pictures of themselves in bikinis and whatnot just to elicit emails from unsuspecting guys that they can share and giggle about with their girlyfriends. I would venture a guess that they aren't even there to find a date - certainly not all, but definitely some. I've used POF before and I make sure to take a good hard look at any profile before I consider sending an email. It's got to have content, and under 40 favs...anything more than that I just assume it's for the ego stroking. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 Don't forget that alot of these 'pretty' girls, especially on POF, are really only on there for an ego boost. They keep their profiles up with pictures of themselves in bikinis and whatnot just to elicit emails from unsuspecting guys that they can share and giggle about with their girlyfriends. I would venture a guess that they aren't even there to find a date - certainly not all, but definitely some. I've used POF before and I make sure to take a good hard look at any profile before I consider sending an email. It's got to have content, and under 40 favs...anything more than that I just assume it's for the ego stroking. I think the best free online dating site is craiglist because you are not stuck with one profile. You can change and put a new ad up all the time. That's why I;m more successful on craiglist. Link to comment
laisla Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 I think the best free online dating site is craiglist because you are not stuck with one profile. You can change and put a new ad up all the time. That's why I;m more successful on craiglist. you're not the type who puts up penis pics right? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 you're not the type who puts up penis pics right? no way, lol. I can't be successful if i sent pics like that-lol Link to comment
laisla Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 no way, lol. I can't be successful if i sent pics like that-lol okay good you're sensible lol Link to comment
Luke Skywalker Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Confuseddater, I've skimmed most of your thread posts. I know you post allot about online dating in the past. You have lots of extensive experience with online dating. You already know how the situation is. My advice is to stay away from the internet and meet women in other venues. I used to be into online dating back in 2006-2007, but after a while I just quit because I lost confidence in that system. The girl I have a relationship with, I didn't meet online and meet her through work. Sometimes you have to look at other areas to meet women. With your experience being online -- you can now appreciate it if you have the balls to approach and start a conversation with an attractive woman -- because she'll respond back to you immediately -- not five days later. It's stories like this that inspire me to go up to women and just talk to them in public, or elsewhere, because you will always get an immediate response and connection with someone -- but at least you usually know where you stand immediately and in person. The reason you go online is because you don't have the balls to approach a women and real life. The price you pay for not having the guts to make an initiative like this is scenerios like waiting for a pretty girl for five days to reply back to you. So, if this bothers you, just approach girls directly, not behind a computer. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 First of all, this is not a rant. This thread was for the guys who recently posted threads about how they never get a response from a pretty women. So I was pointing out to them the downside of when you do get a reply from a pretty girl. I don't care that she is not replying, I just find it funny because I;m not dating right now. Just looking to meet friends. So please don't give me any advice because I don't need any. Thank You Link to comment
husk Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Well i would like to ask a question i have started talking to four different girlls online not at the same time but in the last month we start talking by im or texting and even talking on phone they say they realllly like me making plans to go out act like they are crazy and like this will go on for a week or more talk for hours and then like one day and they disappear what is this ? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 Well i would like to ask a question i have started talking to four different girlls online not at the same time but in the last month we start talking by im or texting and even talking on phone they say they realllly like me making plans to go out act like they are crazy and like this will go on for a week or more talk for hours and then like one day and they disappear what is this ? because when you are talking to so many people at one time, certain people just fall through the cracks. Like when I'm talking to 4 or 5 girls at one time, I usually end up forgetting about one of them because out of the 5, there are 2 who have the STAND OUT personality. Link to comment
husk Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 yeah but we talked for a week or more all day and night by text and im at night and just yestwerday evening she was tasking me to come see her next weekend , i just dont know i guess she met someone more interesteing in guess i dont know. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 yeah but we talked for a week or more all day and night by text and im at night and just yestwerday evening she was tasking me to come see her next weekend , i just dont know i guess she met someone more interesteing in guess i dont know. Yeah that happens. My problem is I used to deal with it in a immature way and leave nasty messages on their voicemail because sometimes when it happened I was actually liking the girl and was confused as to why she just stopped taking my calls. Link to comment
husk Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 looks like they would have the courstey to just say why Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 looks like they would have the courstey to just say why Well I just did the same thing to a girl i met 2 weeks ago. When we first started talking everything was ok but then her phone personality was missing something and then another girl came along and I never called her again. I guess it's just easier that way instead of explaining why. Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Don't forget that alot of these 'pretty' girls, especially on POF, are really only on there for an ego boost. They keep their profiles up with pictures of themselves in bikinis and whatnot just to elicit emails from unsuspecting guys that they can share and giggle about with their girlyfriends. I would venture a guess that they aren't even there to find a date - certainly not all, but definitely some. I've used POF before and I make sure to take a good hard look at any profile before I consider sending an email. It's got to have content, and under 40 favs...anything more than that I just assume it's for the ego stroking. That's complete crap. I think 190 guys or so added me to their fave list. I'm still single and still looking for a guy I am attracted to. I'm not there for an ego boost. I've been single for nearly 15 yrs and would LOVE to find a guy I that I'm attracted to and who is attracted to me. I am just jinxed and have high standards. It kind of sucks that you won't contact anyone who has more than 40 faves, because you might be the one that she actually really likes. Oh and for the record, I don't have any bikini shots or anything like that. I'm just picky and have only seen one guy on there that I was attracted to (who I met 3 times but then he decided he was still in love with his ex). To ConfusedDater - you're mean saying you should write to an 'ugly' girl. And yeah, I think the girl isn't replying sooner because she's just not that into you. It doesn't mean she has another boyfriend or is dating more than one guy... it means she could be busy - or not that into you (either because of your looks or personality). Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted April 5, 2009 Author Share Posted April 5, 2009 let me break it down for you so you can understand. I replied to her, she replied back 5 days later, I responded again, she replied and emailed me 4 days later. I responded again and that was 5 days ago. So we haven;t talked on the phone yet so what is this-"she is not into you" crap you are talking about? And the ugly girl statement was a joke Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 OP, Have you ever had a gf? You may have mentioned that in another thread - just curious. Link to comment
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