annalisa84 Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Today I saw a coworker of mine playing with his little niece and nephew and my heart just melted I mean I don't dream of having children yet, I'm not even that good with children. And I'm not so attracted to that co-worker either. But to see a man playing with children, smiling, kissing babies belly - am I crazy but I felt this sudden urge to kiss him! Like rip the clothes off and kiss him Am I weird or is it some instinct women have Link to comment
Crush85 Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 I've heard of this too. I think one reason is because we hear so many stories about kids without fathers, or dads that abuse their children. So to actually see a dad (or uncle) playing with children is sweet. Link to comment
grymoire Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 wow.. i never knew this. i am going to start playing with children Link to comment
top bloke Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Yes ..when I play with my kids I have to carry a baseball bat. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Seeing a guy with a child (especially younger children like 5 and under) is my weakness. It is just something you don't see very often and when you do see it, you can't help but just go "aww" and I don't care how unattractive a guy is to me if I see he is great with kids he just goes higher up on the attractive level for me. If a guy is good with kids regardless of whether it's his own kid or someone elses it gives the impression that he will make a great family man one day. I am attracted to my guy 100% but when I see him interacting with my son it just makes me love him even more. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 No, not weird. Men with kids, men with puppies and dogs, men in the "caring" profession roles... It's always nice to see a man show his tender side. It is attractive. Link to comment
top bloke Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 I think its a case of a man being a man while having sensitivity. He is strong yet gentle...this is what attracts many women to this situation Link to comment
annalisa84 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 Now I began to wonder what women have to do to get the same reaction from men? I mean a women playing with a child might be sweet but I guess many men would freak out as well. Link to comment
laisla Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 it definitely melts my heart, too. Link to comment
Lowconfidence Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Guys should consider dropping the wingman and adopt the WingNephew or WingNiece. Link to comment
Vince99 Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Fathers are a vital part of a child's development. But someday I will find a woman with whom I will share an amazing and fulfilling relationship. And I just see no reason to add another person to that arrangement. Another person who will inevitably replace me in my wife's eyes. Why would I want to intentionally create another being that I have to have responsibility for? I want to be concerned with two people's well being: 1. my wife, and 2. me. There are plenty of people in the world already, and plenty of people available to create more people. Why do I have to be a part of it? I'm not mean to kids, or bad with them. But is this why women hate me? Link to comment
annalisa84 Posted April 3, 2009 Author Share Posted April 3, 2009 To vinceval I'm sure there are plenty of women who don't want to have children ever as well. Just apparently the rest of us just melt when we'll see men and babies And we don't hate you, we just want someone else! Link to comment
valley Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Fathers are a vital part of a child's development. But someday I will find a woman with whom I will share an amazing and fulfilling relationship. And I just see no reason to add another person to that arrangement. Another person who will inevitably replace me in my wife's eyes. Why would I want to intentionally create another being that I have to have responsibility for? I want to be concerned with two people's well being: 1. my wife, and 2. me. There are plenty of people in the world already, and plenty of people available to create more people. Why do I have to be a part of it? I'm not mean to kids, or bad with them. But is this why women hate me? you're not the only one that feels the same way. as for the topic, it kinda reminds me of the movie Kindergarten Cop with Arnold Schwarzenegger. At the time, they were used to him being the Terminator and a tough guy but when they saw him with the kids, alot of women at the time loved it. Link to comment
yellowcal Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Fathers are a vital part of a child's development. But someday I will find a woman with whom I will share an amazing and fulfilling relationship. And I just see no reason to add another person to that arrangement. Another person who will inevitably replace me in my wife's eyes. Why would I want to intentionally create another being that I have to have responsibility for? I want to be concerned with two people's well being: 1. my wife, and 2. me. There are plenty of people in the world already, and plenty of people available to create more people. Why do I have to be a part of it? I'm not mean to kids, or bad with them. But is this why women hate me? You just need to find a woman who shares your feelings. Also it isn't just seeing guys with their own kids, it is seeing guys with any kids whether it be their nieces/nephews or friends kids.. It's precious. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 Interesting. Well I don't know if I ever want to have children, but regardless - it still shows a quality in a man that I like. A man can show it in other ways. An example: Seeing a man involved in community and volunteer work gives me a similar sort of feeling. I think topbloke said it so beautifully! It's seeing a man be a man while showing a caring tender side. It doesn't necessarily have to be tied with the father-child or man-and-child relationship dynamics. (though for some women I would guess that it is specifically that bond that turns them to goo! lol). But if that isn't you either...there are all sorts of women in this world wanting all sorts of qualities. Yellowcal is right. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 To vinceval I'm sure there are plenty of women who don't want to have children ever as well. Just apparently the rest of us just melt when we'll see men and babies And we don't hate you, we just want someone else! I'm one here who don't really want children as I got no patience with them nor have any desire to have them but it's so cool seeing how some men are sweet to them. Anyways good to hear your story you just shared to us. It's sad how some kids have to grow up either without a mother or father figure because that's so important in a child's life. Link to comment
lila... Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 Men and babies are my weakness too! They make me go gaga. I think what top bloke said describes it best, it denotes sensitivity in a man. There's nothing cuter than a man showing affection to a baby. Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 I used to feel this way, still do a little bit, but it's mostly over now. I still think babies are adorable though, other people's babies. Link to comment
COtuner Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 LOL I see a man with kids and I run away. Far far away. Given that I don't want any. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted April 4, 2009 Share Posted April 4, 2009 I'm not interested in men with babies. That doesn't do anything for me. Probably because I don't want kids myself and ideally I'd want a guy that doesn't want them either. Men with puppies, on the other hand...Hot as hell! Link to comment
xxNPxx Posted April 5, 2009 Share Posted April 5, 2009 Once again I find myself with opposing views and actions from the majority. Around little kids 3 and younger I usually end up in very very long staring contests with bit of a thinking face on as I watch the smiling baby. Then I might play with it by using my finger and seeing if it would grab on to it or watch as I moved it. With puppies, I'm basically the same way. I might pet it then poke at it a little before going into a stare down with my face all scrunched up in thought. Puppies, children, and animals in general don't get much of a response out of me that most women might think are cute. Link to comment
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