Ever done things only to make your parents happy but....

[yeawutever]

never really like it that much and felt pressured in the end esp. when you're still living with them.

 

Ok yes it's happening to me with my job that I don't like that much and I'm only really doing it for the money and my parents that still pressure me on many things (not to disappoint them, to make them proud). I kinda wish I would do it for me and that I would not have to worry about disappointing no one but me only.

 

I get the feeling that I will either not last that long or get somewhat bored. So now I feel trapped. If I quitted it's them getting disappointing, grrr it's all about them getting proud. What about me, what if I'm not that proud. Then if it were to come to grades well now I would just be an average B but it their eyes I'm intelligent, no I ain't. I may be smart but not intelligent with straight A's (though I did get the Principle's honor roll once, all A's on my report card but I called it luck).

 

Fact that's how I was feeling about the english test. I couldn't afford myself to fail because I would not get the position and disappoint them big time. Worst thing is them announcing it to all the other family members and friends, adding more pressure into it. Needless to say I feel pressured too much and as a result I'm feeling stressed out now, not feeling that good. Any suggestions.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I lose weight before breaks so that my mother will be happier.

 

I can't wait to graduate so that I can break away from under her control.

[yeawutever]

Yeah in the end it's sometimes just all about them and their happiness. This can also be apply when it comes to choosing your partner and how they are not good enough for you according to what they tell you about them on a constant basis till you just get damn bored of hearing the same thing over and over again.

 

Their always, typical responses you hear from them ''Oh you think we do this because they we you, we do it for your own good''. Come to think of it, it's kinda a selfish response because the word ''we'' is overly used. What about you, how you feel towards it???

[Cognitive_Canine]

Yeah in the end it's sometimes just all about them and their happiness. This can also be apply when it comes to choosing your partner and how they are not good enough for you according to what they tell you about them on a constant basis till you just get damn bored of hearing the same thing over and over again.

 

Their always responses you get from them ''Oh you think we do this because they hate you, we do it for your own good''. Come to think of it, it's kinda a selfish response because the word ''we'' is use. What about you???

 

Well, parents think that what they would like and be happy with is what you should like and be happy with.

 

Whatever mistakes your parents make, they push strongly against to prevent you from making. They feel that being without mistakes in your youth will make us happier. However, we need to make mistakes.

 

They are doing what they think is best. Keep that in mind. But, you really have to just go for what you're going for. Around this age is when people start breaking off from their parent's intended path.

[yeawutever]

Yes indeed they don't want you to make mistakes, that I understand but you will still make them regardless on how protective they can be. Always falls down at some point and you can get back up.

 

One time they compare this whole thing that I'm telling you now on my post to a maze. It started off that if I was to be on a maze (complicate laberith to be exact) blindfolded and there were traps all over there (deadly snakes, holes ect.) and only my parents knew the safely way out then I would off course be safe and sound. They stated that no one other than them would do that, even a boyfriend or trusted friend can let me fall on those traps.