fivespot Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 This is kind of strange, but hear me out. Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago, I've been on this poor me kick. I've been feeling sorry for myself and would wish every night I'd finally find someone special. I've dated a few girls here and there, but nothing led to anything of any substance. I was really down in the winter time, but now that it's getting nicer, I've been keeping to myself, but I've been staying busy and I haven't been thinking about girls or relationships or the ex or anything like that. So this past week, a friend of a friend says she thinks I'm cute and wants me to call her so we can hang out and get to know each other better. We don't know each other now...we've never met, but she knows me somehow. Normally I'd think this is great, but I just feel absolutely no excitement whatsover about this. I talked to her on the phone the other night, and we were on for a while, but I didn't feel anything from talking to her...no sparks like with my ex...nothing that tells me I want to get to know her better. Maybe because I'm not the one doing the purusing??? But come to think of it, I didn't feel any sparks with any of the other girls I've dated these past few months, either, but I guess it was exciting because I was chasing after them. I told this new girl we'll hang out, but I really don't want to. I don't care if we do or if we don't, but I'd rather not meet at all. I mean, I don't consider myself a cheapskate, but I honestly don't want to take this girl out and spend money on her. I don't care what she thinks about me. Nothing's pulling me to meet her. I'd rather sit at home by myself and watch a movie... Is there something wrong with me??? What do I do? Link to comment
Qut81 Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 No nothing wrong with you. When I broke up with my bf before my ex, I fell into a depression and I didnt find anyone interesting in 2 yrs. To the point, I thought I was a lesbian or something. (not that there is anything wrong with that) You just gotta force yourself to date and get out of this rut. Trust me, you may not find someone you cared about like your ex, but you will find someone that you can be happy with and you will love again. Link to comment
faithful14 Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 i don't think there's anything wrong per se...it seems that you're just not interested in this girl and you're not wasting your time... do you perhaps miss your ex though? Link to comment
fivespot Posted April 2, 2009 Author Share Posted April 2, 2009 That's another problem I'm having though... Part of the reason I don't even want to give this girl a chance is because she's really young. I should be looking for someone closer to my age, but there isn't really anyone like that in this crap town since there aren't any jobs. So, what...I go out with this girl and start to get attached, then all of a sudden she says she needs to enjoy college and party or see what else is out there, blah blah blah while she's living an hour away at college? I don't know...this just feels like I can see something happening before it happens, but I'm not doing anything to stop it...if that makes sense. And this is the thing...I'm not depressed! I was, but I'm not anymore. Like I said, not thinking about it...REALLY not thinking about it and it's the best fix in the world! It seems a little too simple, but it really does work! I don't think about my ex, I dont' think about the fact I haven't been able to find anyone new, and I focus on other things in my life and I'm fine! Link to comment
Qut81 Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 hmm, that sort of contridicts what you posted "This is kind of strange, but hear me out. Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago, I've been on this poor me kick. I've been feeling sorry for myself and would wish every night I'd finally find someone special." Link to comment
fivespot Posted April 2, 2009 Author Share Posted April 2, 2009 hmm, that sort of contridicts what you posted "This is kind of strange, but hear me out. Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago, I've been on this poor me kick. I've been feeling sorry for myself and would wish every night I'd finally find someone special." What do you mean? For the longest time I've felt like that. But that all stopped a few months ago for some reason. Like I said, I stopped thinking about it so much, and it seems to no longer haunt me. So fast forward about two months to the present. Some girl expressed an interest in me and I'm trying to find a way out of this.... Link to comment
ratfreak Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 I just did the same thing after a break up. No intrest in a guy who wanted to meet up BUT I said well at least I can maybe make a friend and you can never have too many friends! He turns out to be very nice and we have a few things in common so even though I know I'm not looking for another boyfriend, I'm going to see how things go. Don't dismiss it - you might find a super person to be with or a great friend. Link to comment
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