Absolution Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Well i have been dating this girl for about month but i havent been able to see her for about two weeks now(because our spring breaks werent alligned) and then two days ago we were talking on the phone and she said that something was wrong and so of course i asked and she explained that she felt we rushed into things and she wished we had "talked" more before we started dating. She also said that she still has feelings for the guy she dated for 2 years and that she needed some time to think. So she wants us to be somewhere between friends and a relationship until she figures things out. She still wants to talk everyday and hang out but says we only kiss. (No sex though). Im just wondering how i should proceed from here? i do really like this girl and would like a relationship with her. What should i do? Link to comment
waveseer Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Make yourself comfortable, what would that take? Link to comment
jul-els Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 She has clearly set her boundaries. Either you're comfortable with it or you're not. If it were me I would pass on it. She's not sure of her feelings or what she's doing with you or why. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 i wouldn't continue to see her while she "thinks about it". i think that would just hurt a lot more. i'd tell her to give me a call once she figures things out. she can't have her cake and eat it too. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 Personally, I'd walk away to protect your own feelings. Let her sort out her feelings with her exboyfriend but you shouldn't give her your feelings when she isn't sure of what she wants. It isn't fair for her to have both of you and then get to test you both out. Most likely it won't work in your favour either. She will just compare you to the 2 year long guy. There is always a chance that she could get it all cleared out and end up with you, but, if I were you, I'd protect your own feelings and tell her to contact you when she figures it out. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 I'd start setting up dates with other girls. Right now! You've only known her a month. If you want to maintain contact with her while she makes up her mind, that's up to you. But don't be a puppy sitting outside her doorstep - you'll only wind up getting hurt. I guess it was nice of her to let you know about the other guy...just do not live your life around hers. Link to comment
roctown Posted April 3, 2009 Share Posted April 3, 2009 If she initiated this conversation you're probably toast. If you had asked and she had said this you might still have a chance but if she initiated the conversation, it means she thought this through and tried to find a way to let you down easy. Link to comment
Absolution Posted April 4, 2009 Author Share Posted April 4, 2009 Well i she was acting so i asked her, but apparently she told our mutual friends she was "talking" to her ex too... but i havent asked her about it. So what do u think? also anyone know a good free dating site Link to comment
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