What is this??? I need to know.....

[Delusional Kisses]

I just got back from a trip to see the BFF ("T") and it really helped me come to a realization that him and I may never be together and I came home with a new frame of mind. But at one point during the trip, my friend "K" (the one I've been casually seeing..or flirting with or whatever you wanna call it) texted me with saying he was out at some bar by himself...which I knew was his cue to come see him. I replied telling him I was out of town and he asked why. I told him I was visiting my friend and when I said who, he replied with "Whatever. I dont care" and being as I was half drunk and with "t", I replied with a "I think its best if we don't talk anymore". I didn't text him anymore and I didn't hear from him. A week passes with nothing. I came home from the trip and like I said...I had a new frame of mind about everything. On Saturday night, "K" texts and asks me what I was doing that night and that he was going to see a singer perform at a local festival. I replied with a "IDK. I have no plans" and he said "Ok...I'm going to run some errands. I'll meet you at blah, blah, blah" I thought that was just a bit presumptious on his part...lol...but I contemplated it, discussed it with my sisters (like always) and decided to go. After all, I have nothing to lose and I was opening myself up to new things. I wasn't going to revolve my world around "t" anymore. So...I went and had a blast. We hung out, danced, flirted and really had a nice time. He held my hand and was very affectionate. Side note: I am not affectionate but its another thing I am working on. He said several times about how much he likes me and enjoys hanging out with me, etc. Anyway, at the end of the evening, he walked me to my car which was parked in a very dark, very secluded parking lot and we ended up fooling around.

So, to my question....I have always been told that I make things too casual too long and that is why I never leave the "friend zone". I don't want to do that anymore. For the first time in my life, I am NOT okay with being the FWB. I want something more. How does that happen? How can I make it known that is not what I want without just saying it? I don't ever want it to seem like I am pressuring someone into something, but the fact of the matter is...right now, he is the only person I am interested in and the only person I'd like to see...how do I find out if he feels the same?

This is a HUGE step for me and I'm kinda freaking out.

[ghost69]

this guy is only hitting you up when he's out on the town. doesn't sound like he has ever taken you on an official date. you are casual to these guys. find different guys.